Some background information.
My sister is suffering depression which she REFUSES to seek help for in any way, is VERY stressed, & has anger management issues.
She is 36 and has 2 children aged 4 & 2.5.
She is single.
She NEVER takes the kid’s out. Instead prefering to sit at home on the internet buying on e-bay.
The TV is the babysitter.
The kid’s are so bored. They love it when my sister and I would take them to the beach etc. They were well behaved as they had something to do. When their bored they of course play up. This angers my sister.
She looses her temper VERY easily with the kid’s, especially the 4 year old over stupid little things such as playing with a pencil while eating. Dropping food on the floor while eating. Being too loud. pulling leaves off a tree etc.
When she looses her temper, she screams LOUDLY so neighbours can hear. She also threatens them with “Leave that alone or I’ll chop your hand off!” etc to touching things. Or “The spiders will bit you and you’ll die if you go in there.”
She also hit’s. But NOT SMACKING. Actual hitting.
Just the other day she rung me at night & asked me to come over? Why? Because she had blackened the 4 year old’s eye & she had a fat nose!!! What happened? She had broken her glasses again. So my sister sent her to her room. But she was so angry she went into the room & threw the glasses at the wall very close to her head. She stated she wanted to scare the sh*t out of her, but the glasses hit her in the nose instead.
She had kinder the next morning & she was in a panic.
when she brought her daughter around, it looked as if her nose was broken & she had a massive black eye.
But really worried me was that she then said to her daughter “Now tell Aunty W what we practiced (for kinder).”"Eliza threw a toy at me!” She was coaching her 4 year old to lie to cover her butt plus then placing the blame on her 2.5 year old!!
Would you ring DHS?
I am getting very worried.
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Sweetie, how do you think these children are going to end up? Think about it. How do you think a 4 year old feels when his mother gives him a black eye? Even if it was an “accident”. Her reaction was abusive, there’s no way around that. Is this love? Is this the kind of environment a child should grow up in?
Please consider that if you allow this to continue, it could get so bad that she actually breaks one of their bones. And more importantly, she is breaking their spirits, their minds, their personalities. There is strong research suggesting that children that come from abusive families either 1) abuse others or 2) end up in abusive relationships later in life. Do you want that for them?
Please step in, call child protective services. Most likely they will not take the children, but they may force your relative to get help.
Those children had NO SAY in what type of enviroment they were born into. My heart goes out to them. This woman is shaping their lives as we speak and it doesn’t look like she is doing a very good job at all.
Please make the call now.
I would. but I would keep the children with me. Because you wouldn’t want them going into a foster home. And that’s not going to be good for them. that almost happend to me. And I was scared to death of going in to a foster home,
Get your sister a therapist or psychiatrist. It seems like she needs medical help and may need medication. Take care for the kids a few days also, if you can, while she starts her visits and see how that goes.
My oppinions is very simple
A 4 years boy is hard to be keep only from women .
It is not a rule . She probably plan to reconsider her life and is stressed
I have no kids and I am still talking..
I hope she find the way !
The rule of thumb tends to be when in doubt call. I recommend checking out this web site: http://www.dhhs.state.nh.us/DHHS/BCP/report-abuse.htm
Also do some research of your own.
I would not hesitate in calling the authorities. It will give a her a good slap in the face and make her get help.
Ring them. Ring them now. If you care at all about your neices you will ring them now.
I suggest you do but dont send children off into child services. keep them with you if possible.
Yes. Even if they do not come over, there will be a report in the file. The more reports, the more they will study the family. Yelling at the kids is not necessarily abuse, but the hitting is. Especially when she is trying to cover for it. You can be anonymous when you call, no one has to know it was you. I hope things get better and if not, keep calling.
This is a difficult situation, but you can’t just let this continue. Those kids can’t stand up for themselves and you’re the only one who can at this point.
Your sister needs help. She sounds like if she got help for her anger and depression that she would probably be a good parent. But it also sounds like she won’t get help on her own.
If you called someone, would you willing to take the kids while she got help? That might make a difference in what happens because if your sister got better, the kids would be able to live with her again.
Even if you don’t call, once these kids start school someone will notice. I guarantee it. And then they will call and the kids may be taken away for good.
In this situation call them, asap, and if you let them know it is you and if you are willing to take in your neices, they are usually much more willing to place children with family rather than a foster home, or even take the little one to the hospital and ask to talk to a social worker, they will make a report right there and the children would already be away from the mother in case she lost it again… any which way, just do it, thats child abuse
Yes, you should, without a second thought. It is your obligation to protect these children as it seems no one else is. You are also protecting your sister from guilt over the child abuse which would lead to deeper depression, the hatred and fear her children will feel toward her, and quite possibly prevent her from literally killing her child. Do you know that you can die from a head injury from a slow bleed months after the initial injury occurred? Your sister is also currently teaching her children to be abusers. So, by reporting ALL incidences of abuse, you are protecting yourself, your sister, your nieces and/or nephews, and possibly generations to come. I know it is going to be tough, but you really need to do this. Good luck.
If you are a nurse, you are a mandated reporter, meaning ethically and legally you MUST report any suspected child abuse.
Notice the officials. AT ONCE. Call the cops. Prepare a Room in your house, as you will probably be their closest relative besides their father or their grandparents. Prepare to receive them for care. Your sister will go into prison or more probable a psychiatric ward for curing her depression.
This situation is grave!!
I would tell your sister, look either check your self into some place and get help NOW or I will call DHS.. Your sister may be bi polar and undiagnosed. She really needs help. DEfinetly give her the chance to get help, even if you have to threaten to take kids to make her do it.. Who knows she may go and may come back a awesome mom.
this may be hard but come down on on your sis like a ton of bricks call dhs and sort her out by counseling if not call the cops that is child abuse sod your sister get the kids who are in danger out of there now!!!!
this wont stop if you dont sort this out because the kids are to young and your sis is an **** hole that is in denile of her obvious problems!
that could of done more damage and will get further out of hand with time untill she does something worse than a black eye!
they are lucky too have you get help
save em before its too late!!!
ps try to keep the kids with you instead of bein put with foster care this may trouble them more
Im not the type to call the “athoritys” for matters in the family. I am the type how ever to beat the living crap out of a adult family member for doing something as stupid and abusive as what your sister is doing (you know it was something A LOT heaver than a pair of glasses hitting that child in the face to cause that type of injury)
my nephew has my private cell phone number, and he knows to call me if he ever gets in trouble he cant handle by himself, even if its with his mother or father.
talk to her. shes your sister. place a video camera if possible that WAY you can show her how she acts and let her know that that can be used against her. make sure u tell her you lv her, but at the same tme don color code anything for her. tell her that it is ok to discipline the children but not in that matter. ask her if she would like for you to keep them some time that way you can relieve some of the stress off of her or make up activities for yall to do and have her participate. if the situatiation gets worse then take a step forward to children services bcause even though thats your sister, what mattes are the kids…. good luck to you!
I dont know what kinder is…however, what i would do if i was able to is take the kids off of her hands for a while with the caveat that she has to seek some type of help….those kids are going to end up losing out and being traumatized if they stay with her. I wouldnt call the authorities because then the kids would be placed in foster care and possibly abused again and traumatized because of the separation from their family.
I would most def. call DHS (i’m assuming that is like CPS?)
But first i’d probably talk to your lawyer first, to see if DHS will do anything that they give you or another relative temp. custody so the children don’t end up in foster care.
Someone needs to take care of those two girls, and since it can’t be the mother, it needs to be you.