My husband has been working at the same company for about 6 years, gradually moving up into middle management. The company is now expanding and money is really tight there. He is the purchasing manager and manages purchasing for all the facilities (us, mexico, east coast and China). Because money is tight, his job is really high stress because they are on credit hold with all his vendors and he can’t make deadlines because he can’t buy material. Every day he comes home stressed, sometimes to the point of tears. I feel horrible for him. Problem is, he doesn’t have his BA yet, he has about 2 more years to go on it, and is going part time to school now. I don’t think he could get another job with the same salary (about 55k) without a degree. And, since he hates his job due to the high stress, I doubt he’d want to go into the same thing at another company, which is where all his experience is. I am pregnant with twins and have kids, so I can’t go back to work now. What can he do?
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Get him the books
“48 days to the job you love” and
“No More Mondays”
They at least gave me some hope that things would not always be so bad – and after 6 months things are looking up
Keep chipping away at the basics. Get resumes out. Talk to people in the community about job oppurtunities (sometimes it os who you know) Look at vocational training for a quick turn around (welding, machining are in high demand)
The important thing is keep exploring options. I wish all the best…
stress makes life shorter. what’s your priority? what does really matters to you your fear of changing lifestyle or his life itself in the long run.
Life is abundant, don’t be afraid there is always something for each of us. if it fits it will fit. Life is a constant change.
Try to see some people in the third world countries. they are happy. why can’t you.
“If you build it, they will come” “ask and you’ll receive”
step 1: look at your budgets, see where you can realistically cut back.
step 2: see if he can take a lateral move in his company to a lower stress job or see if he can get another job that is less stress. or see if you can survive while he works a part time job and goes to school full time.
step 3: see what kinds of scholarships and grants he could qualify for if he were to quit work and go to school full time and see how long it would take him to complete his course of study if he went to school year round.
step 4: if it isn’t possible to do now, then plan for when it will be possible. He needs to give himself a timeline for when he will leave his job and go to school full time.
step 5: it helps if you already have a bout 6 months salary in savings but would be really nice if you had a year in savings.
step 6:
College loans are only a good idea if the degree you are getting will enable you to pay the loan off in 3-5 years. You may be able to get a loan that will cover your living expenses for the year and help pay school. If he only has 1 or 2 years left of school, then this may be worth it.
step 7:
THINK ABOUT THIS NEXT STEP VERY CAREFULLY. IT IS A RISK AND IT ONLY WORKS IF THE DEGREE YOU ARE GETTING WILL ENABLE YOU TO RECOUP THE COST OF THIS NEXT STEP IN 3-5 YEARS. This is also only worth it if you have the equivilant of a year’s pay in it. If he has a profit sharing plan or an IRA or 401K at work–see if he can take a loan out to pay for school off of it (this isn’t the radical suggestion) Here’s the radical suggestion: if you can’t do the college loan off the retirement account, cash it out, take out what you need to finish school and for living expenses and then roll the remainder (if any) over into another IRA or 401K. Pay your taxes and penalites for the early withdrawal on what you are using for school/living expenses. When he starts working in his new field then he returns the amount he used for school back into the fund or starts a new fund with that amount.
the main thing is: he needs to plan.
support him. help him realize that sticking it out for two more years will provide for the family, and help pay for him to finish school. In two years, a new door can be open to him and he can move on. Help him find a way to look toward the future.
sounds like it’s time 4 college. sometimes if yer stuck in a job u H8 yer whole life is dark. just get him 2 college so he can have a better job.
Wow…..that’s a very hard place to be for the both of you. I guess you and your husband need to decide what’s more important. The money or his and ultimately (both of your) happiness. Sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders and wouldn’t want him to do anything without thinking it through, let’s just hope he has the same sense. Find out what it is that WOULD make him happy and start building for it. For example, does he enjoy something else where his purchasing experience would help him in obtaining work in that field? He’s lucky because what he does not can spill over into many other areas of employement opportunities. There’s a great many couselors that could help him with this, giving him ideas on alternate fields.
I guess the most important thing is your future. Not his, yours or your children’s, but all of yours together. If one is unhappy, then all of you will be. Thank God your husband has a wife who is obviously as concerned for his happiness as her own! If he were to remain in this stressful job for another 20 years, he’d probably be just another heart attack waiting to happen, you’d be miserable and so would the kids.
Take a chance! You only get one shot at this, so make the most of it…..and make sure it’s a happy one! Money means nothing when you don’t enjoy your life. And money doesn’t buy it, just love. Seems to me you’re already on the right track looking for alternatives…..See a couselor……and good luck to you and God Bless all of you!