My husband has been working at the same company for about 6 years, gradually moving up into middle management. The company is now expanding and money is really tight there. He is the purchasing manager and manages purchasing for all the facilities (us, mexico, east coast and China). Because money is tight, his job is really high stress because they are on credit hold with all his vendors and he can’t make deadlines because he can’t buy material. Every day he comes home stressed, sometimes to the point of tears. I feel horrible for him. Problem is, he doesn’t have his BA yet, he has about 2 more years to go on it, and is going part time to school now. I don’t think he could get another job with the same salary (about 55k) without a degree. And, since he hates his job due to the high stress, I doubt he’d want to go into the same thing at another company, which is where all his experience is. I am pregnant with twins and have kids, so I can’t go back to work now. What can he do?

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I am so explosive lately – what is wrong with me?
I have never been like this before and really don’t know what is wrong with me. It started a few months ago. It may have something to do with the following:
1) I have been working for a company for three years and I am good at what I do. My old manager was going to promote me. She was given a different department and a new guy took over. He hired a friend of his to take the position I was supposed to get and both of them are idiots and don’t know what they are doing. I don’t think there is any management in the department and I am getting angry at work. My so called ‘boss’ seems to be in competition with me or something. Any time I have an idea – he’ll say ‘Oh, I was going to do it this way’ – and he is usually wrong.
2) I am questioning my husbands true feelings for me. He doesn’t seem to be interested in being affectionate anymore. We took a walk in the park and we have a secret romantic spot. We went there today and instead of kissing me I got a peck on the lips and he seemed ‘forced’ into it.
3) I work full time and make breakfast, lunch, dinner, food shop and care for the cats (no kids). We just moved and he complains that we haven’t finished unpacking yet. He asks when I am going to clean the house because the toilets haven’t been cleaned in a month. His brother calls me a slob. – WELL, If I cook and do the food shopping and take care of the cats – why can’t he help clean? Or am I wrong? (And YES – we have had this discussion before and he knows how I feel)
So, Lately I have been very explosive especially towards my husband. Today I made breakfast, lunch, dinner, ran a few errands, cleaned cats litter boxes. He didn’t help clean up afterwards. He went out with a few friends for a few hours came home and sat on the couch watching TV for hours. While I was working out he asked me to get him a glass of water since I want to excersice and lose weight. At the time it didn’t bother me and I thought it was funny and got him the water. Then – for some reason I started stewing about it and asking myself ” Why didn’t he get it? I wouldn’t be so stressed out if he got the water himself. Can’t he see I am working out?” Then, I asked him to help out clearing the dinner dishes. He said “I’ll get it tomorrow. I am used to being a slob from being around you.” That did it – and I went off on him for an hour screaming and yeling about how I am sick of being called a slob and that I work too so can’t he help out – how come he didn’t get his own water and I said if he got being a slob from me then I got being lazy from him and he kept saying he’s sick of hearing me yell and shut up or go to bed. He also said that he ‘asked me to get him a glass of water” and he said I could have said NO. So he just doesn’t get it. It made me more mad that he didn’t acknowledge why I was so mad. I just feel so stressed out lately. Why can’t he get his own glass of water? Why can he sit there and watch TV and relax while I am running around doing stuff.
Ok – he has a point – I could just say no get it your self- but for some reason I got it then stewed about it later.
ANyhow – my point is maybe I have a reason to feel the way I do – maybe I don’t. I just wanted other people’s opinions about it all. Is something wrong with me or are all the situations starting to get to me? I mean – I used to handle stress very well. I used to have patients and tact and know how to handle a situation without yelling and screaming. I used to just be able to talk. NOW I fly off the handle screaming and I know it isn’t helping the relationship with my husband. I yell at him for no reason sometimes. What is going on?

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I am currently working a job where I received a write-up. I am in a management trainee program and I know that I am not going to stick with the company for a long period of time. I feel to ,being brutally honest, that my boss is biased against me and my boss constantly talks to me in a condescending manner, yells at me, and degrades me in front of the people I am supposed to manage. I am in a industry that is very customer service oriented and requires customers yelling at me and I also get yelled at when I try to seek answers to some of the questions I try to ask of management. I used to love my job but now I am so stressed out at work that unfortunately the stress I bring home and around my loved ones has had detrimental affects on my personal relationships (i.e my significant other, my family, and friends). This amongst other things has not only affected my perceptions on the job, but also has allowed me to develop a pessimistic outlook on my personal life.
I have the next three days off, but as much as I don’t want to quit for the sake of some of the people whom depend on me at work, I feel extremely uncomfortable at work where everyday I get more and more stressed. What should i do? I want to be professional and give two weeks notice, but with the amount of stress I get, I want to to leave today but also want to try to minimize the damage I cause. I feel as if I am trying to weigh the pro’s and con’s between whats best for me personally and whats best for me professionally.

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sleeping, listening to calming music(like chinese relaxing stuff)

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Reduce Stress By Exercisinghttp://stress-reduction4.blogspot.com/20…
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So, I have a friend who has a “throwing” tendency when she gets upset – i.e. throws cell phone, throws shoes, throws paper clips, miscellaneous objects…you get the idea. I need some help coming up with a stress relief exercise of sorts (such as a punching bag, treadmill, shooting clay pigeons, doing 100,000 sit-ups) that would make use of her throwing tendencies in a safe and non damaging way to relieve stress. Throwing plates at the wall, for example, is not an option. Any ideas?
Thanks in advance.

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in 2004 i purchased a house for 250K putting down roughly 50K. It’s a two family and i lived in it for 2 years and then moved. It seems that on average i make $500 per month in rent as it seems i’m constantly pouring money into it. (it’s over 100 years old). I moved 1000 Miles away in 2005 and it causes me a fair amount of stress. I can rent both units for 1350 (after management company) but it seems i never have both units filled! It’s frustrating because i so rarely get rent checks and it eats a lot of money per month (roughly 1750). i wrote off about 13K in losses last year.
So…What should i be willing to sell my house for (i think it’s a simple NPV equation, but i’m not confident in my answer). (by the way, the house has seemingly depreciated over this time period). Last note, although it shouldn’t matter, i’m fairly young and used part of an inheritance when i was 24 to purchase this. (thought it was a smart move at the time, didn’t anticipate leaving). Thank you!!

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My apartment is partially over a walkway. Recently the management installed a wrought iron gate at one end of this walkway. This gate is under my bedroom wall and makes a crash as it closes that can be heard in every room. All it takes is one bang to destroy the comfort of my home. It’s like someone setting of a cherry bomb in the late night or early morning. What can I do? I just resigned my lease at the end of Sept. The gate doesn’t have a lock and isn’t for security purposes. This is really stressing me. Do I have any rights?

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Does Meditation relieve stres? you can’t avoid all stress, but you can counteract its negative effects by learning how to evoke the relaxation response, a state of deep rest that is the polar opposite of the stress response. Practising meditation regularly has been shown to reduce stress and lower blood pressure. Living a calmer life allows you to live longer and more happily, you look younger than your years, and you are much more able to cope with life’s inevitable setbacks and difficulties.
The body’s natural relaxation response is a powerful antidote to stress. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, visualization, progressive muscle relaxation, meditation, and yoga can help you activate this relaxation response. When practiced regularly, these activities lead to a reduction in your everyday stress levels and a boost in your feelings of joy and serenity. What’s more, they also serve a protective quality by teaching you how to stay calm and collected in the face of life’s curveballs.
Meditation has also been shown to increase alpha brainwaves. Alpha brainwaves are the type of brainwaves used in creativity and problem solving. The more you meditate the more creative you will become which could lead to both personal and professional breakthroughs.

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I’m 21 and still living at home and I want to move out. I can’t live with any of my friends because, frankly, I can’t stand the way that they live. My job is preventing this and the only way I can get a new job is to get my car fixed as there is no place on the bus line that is close enough to walk home from if I miss the last bus of the night and my current non-diploma, high school failure, not drop out, status is currently preventing me from getting any of the better jobs that are on the bus line. I work in a McDonald’s that is only a 30 minute walk from home. If I go into management at my work, I should make enough to get my car fixed, which in turn will allow me to get a new job. The only problem is, I’ve been working at a McDonald’s for the past 5 years and have never had any direct interaction with the customers, I work in the back, “flippin’ burgers,” if you will. The stress in the back is bad enough, but I’ve seen what being a manager at that McDonald’s does to a person. So, I have two question: should I go into management, until I get my GED, to get my car fixed? If I do choose to go into management, how would I mentally prepare myself for the stress that is to come?
If there is any confusing parts of this, I apologize, I went through and added stuff that I forgot to include into places where I thought seemed appropriate.
Thank you for your help, any answers relative to my questions will be greatly appreciated.

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