i know its long but please help..
Okay, well my family used to be perfect but it just started getting bad a couple of years ago and it gets worse and worse. When my mom had her first child, she only lived to be 12 days old, and that really left a big hold in my moms life. So… she went to counceling, and that helped but shes still going to it, and its not really seeming to help anymore with our family issues. Then, She had me and she was really really really overprotective until around the age of 11 “im 14 now”, and we had a really close relationship. Then, she had my brother “who is 10 now” and hes always had problems with anger management, so i guess you could say it started going downhill there. Then she had my other brother “8 now” and hes always been the “sweet, perfect, angelic, sensitive” child. Last, she has my sister “4 now” she used to be really sweet but after all the screaming and emotional stress that has gone on, shes become really mean and hateful of everyone.
I dont know exactly where it all started. I guess it started with me and my mom/my brother and my mom getting fights which increasingly got worse “i think part of it might be becauser my mom has borderline personality disorder’ but anway at the same time my dad just started a new business, so hes not home as much, and hes trying to make money but my mom has this idea in her head that he just wants to be away from the family, thats not the case at all.
So it started getting worse and worse when it became physical. For example, my mom would hit my brother kinda lightly with a closed fist, he would hit her back, he would say he wanted to kill her in her sleep, my mom would say i hate you, and my brother would call my dad at work. My mom always ALWAYS twisted around the stories and i think in her head, she made herself believe that they were true, but after enough of these fighting scenarios with all of us, my dad started to believe the kids, which my mom HATES. My mom loves the two youngest siblings, and thinks there perfect, my little sister definately isnt, and since our relationship which was strongest grew apart, she even loves my 10 year old brother more and is always sticking up for him. Luckily, I have my dad who sticks up for me. so it is basically my mom and brother against me and my dad.
Well after all these calls of me crying to my dad, and me running away, because my mom would call me “worthless,slutty, not as good as anyone in the family” and she would say she wants to send me away, my dad started threatening divorce, which is not a good thing to bpd people. Ever since then my moms been trying so hard to not hit us, but my dad thinks shes trying to hard and being faky and hes still considering divorce as a possibility. So every time he mentions it my mom literally has a breakdown “cusses, hits people, cant breathe, runs around in circles, tries to find the keys to her car to drive away” all of that stuff.. and she is always saying how shes not gonna live without my dad which kind of puts him on the spot. My dad has so much financial stress, and family stress adn hes becoming depressed and sad, and hes never smiling anymore. The last few months have been hardest for me. Ive started cutting, I have very in depth suicidal thoughts, and i just sit in my room and listen to music, nothing in life seems fun aymore, i just want to sleep and never wake up.
My mom has her nice days too, she takes me shopping, out to lunch, and laughs but i cant forgive her for everthing shes done in the past. me and my dad try to tell her that but she just says how hateful, and grudge holding we are. I realy feel so bad, and yesterday morning she left and i dont konw where she is, and im relaly scared and worried, and she caled my dad last night but only asked to say goodnight to the other kids. She hates me so much, And i konw its because she thinks in her little twisted brain that im trying to break her and my dad up but im doing the opositte. Im going to a psychologist and i just got bloodtests for this…. http://www.theultramindsolution.com/laun… instead of having to take medication, im waiting to get my results back, but im so depressed, and lonely. adn i have to balance school on top of al lof this right now i have straight fs and im moving schools so ill have to get adjusted to that school and what should i do. im scard to call my mom and find out where she is………she could be anywhere from a friends house, to a psychiatric ward, to a hotel

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So my question is can I receive unemployment being that I quit for good cause? Should I quit my present job at the restraunt due to mental discrimination and reduced hours? Can I take a lawsuit against either employer? Please read what has happened it is very lengthy.
I started working at a restaurant in January 2009 part time as a host which I still am employed at. I was working on average 15-25 hours per week until the end of March 2009. In March 2009 I also picked up a second job part time as a cashier at a grocery store. After I got my other job they cut my hours back to only 2 days a week up to 8 hours for the week and only will schedule me on weekends. Both my current and past employer know that I have mental disabilities from a brain injury from birth frontal lobe damage which is the most advanced part of the brain. At first it was great working at my current job but after a few months I noticed my work environment became very hostile due to management and a few co-workers. A woman who is still employed their grabbed me around the waist and physically picked me up and moved me out of the way because I did not move out of her way fast enough. The same woman recently grabbed me by the shoulder pointed her finger at me and told me I should never interrupt her when she is talking and it is rude, she did this very loud in front of a table of customers. I was just relaying a message to her from another hostess. There are also safety issues in the work place including servers leaving there tray jacks sticking outward so customers and other employees can trip over. I had one guest almost get hurt and I myself got jabbed by one. I told the managers and upper management and nothing has been done. Every once in awhile I can’t make it in or am running a little late they tell me forget it don’t bother coming in we don’t need you. I had an instance where a co worker had to have a day off and could not find anyone to take her shift so I volunteered. Everything was great until she had to confirm it with my manager. My manager said they don’t need me to work for the co-worker because they don’t need someone for that day. But anyone that’s needs to work a double or pick up a shift is asked except me. One of the managers told me to say something about a server picking up a switched table or something in a fast tone of voice and I didn’t understand. I asked her nicely if she could repeat what she said and she turned her head the other way and ignored me. I then walked away after standing there for a minute waiting for a response. I recently went back into the office with my manager to see if I could get more hours and they said no because I am slow, am not independent and I can’t always think very fast. I think they have been trying to get me to quit and it seems like they are mentally discriminating against me as well! My other job I just recently quit. They too tried to force me to quit by making my work environment hostile and personally attacking me, not scheduling me for a couple weeks and it also made my health very bad and caused a lot of stress. These last few months I have had to see doctors and I due to physical health problems. When I started at my other job I really put a lot of time and effort in and helped a lot of my co workers out that need time off by taking shifts for them. There was an instance where I was on my way to work at the first job and I got stung by something on the way there riding a motorized scooter. My arm started to swell up really bad and I was getting dizzy. I tried working at my first job for a bit but the pain was too much to take. I was sent home on my way home I stopped at the other job that was supposed to work and showed upper management my arm, by then it was turning red and hiving up I was in tears from the pain. She then said ok go home get some rest we will cover your shift. The next day I came in and I was written up for missing the day before! There was a personal attack on me from my second job by one of my mangers and co worker because I was not able to take a shift for someone. From then on the co worker treated me very poorly and added to the hostile environment by going off at me in front of customers. One customer cared enough to get the co worker’s name. A few weeks later I got pulled in the office and was told money was missing out of my drawer and I would be put on audit. The same worker works cash office that has a personal grudge against me. I talked to upper manager and asked if she or anyone could have taken the money. I was told no. One of my managers told that co worker what we had discussed and the co worker again lashed out at me verbally. For the time I worked at my second job I was always on time for work and breaks. Except for a couple instances where I had to take public transportation. I was written up for being 2 minutes late. I was also then pulled in the office because I supposaly was late on a break by one minute another write up which is not

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I have compiled a CV and would like some honest opinions please. This is the first time I have done a CV so please be condtructive with your critisms.
Curriculum Vitae
Christopher XXXX
XXXX
XXXXXXXXX
XXX XXX
Tel: XXXX XXX
Mob: 07517 XXX
Email: chrisXXX@hotmail.com
Profile
I am a keen, hard working, conscientious and reliable person. I am a good time keeper and enjoy meeting people. I get on well with people and can work well either on my own or as part of a team. I can adapt to any environment and would like to use my skills to contribute positively to any work situation.
Previous Employment History
Dec 2009 – Present
XXXXXXXXXXX – Traffic Controller
My main responsibilities in my current employment are the allocation of driver duties, vehicle allocation, arranging vehicle maintenance and servicing, dealing with customer queries and complaints, ticket sales and cash handling, allocation of driver holidays and managing the issue and return of driver tachographs. I am required to use a computer for most of my day to day tasks and designed most of the spreadsheets that we currently use.
Mar 2005 – Dec 2009
XXXXXXXXXX – Assistant Operations Manager
I was responsible for 3 operating depots including two outstations which included a team of 8 traffic controllers and approximately 130 members of staff. I was also responsible for dealing with customer complaints, staff recruitment and retention, disciplinary and absence management, holiday planning and lost mileage recording and investigation. I was required to work on my own initiative and make day to day operational decisions. I was faced with a redundancy situation towards the end of 2009 and sought an alternative position within the company.
Sep 2004 – Mar 2005
XXXXXXX – Coach Driver
My main responsibilities as a coach driver included driving customers to and from London, answering customer queries, driving in a safe manner at all times, ticket sales and cash handling and making the journey as enjoyable and stress free as possible for the customers. I was partly responsible for setting up the XXXXXXXXX operation in September 2004 and was promoted to the position of assistant operations manager within six months of joining the company.
Oct 2002 –Sep 2004
XXXXXXXXXXX – Coach Driver
My main responsibilities as a coach driver included driving customers to and from London, answering customer queries, driving in a safe manner at all times, ticket sales and cash handling and making the journey as enjoyable and stress free as possible for the customers. XXXX lost the contract in 2004 and I transferred to XXXX under the TUPE regulations.
Mar 1997 – Oct 2003
XXXX Retail Group – Store Manager
In this position I was responsible for the recruitment and training of staff, making sure the shelves were fully stocked and all items were correctly priced, working on the till as and when necessary including early morning starts and late finishes, arranging staff holidays and sickness cover, liaising with suppliers to ensure stock was delivered on time, dealing with customers on a one to one basis and resolving customer complaints with regard to newspaper / magazine deliveries.
Achievements
Throughout my working career I have always worked towards promotion within the companies I have worked for and have held various supervisory and management positions.
In 2008 I was tasked with reducing the amount of mileage lost through vehicle breakdowns and driver failures at our XXXX depot. I managed to achieve this by carefully monitoring current practices and suggesting a course of action to improve depot performance, which resulted in a substantial reduction in both lost mileage and driver absence and also boosted staff morale.
Education
I attended XXXX secondary school in XXXXXXXXXX between 1984 and 1989 and XXXX sixth form in XXXXXXX between 1989 and 1990.
Qualifications / Training
GSCE passes in English, Maths, Science, Geography and French
NVQ level 2 in Team Leadership
IOSH Certificate in Health & Safety
Risk Assessments
Accident investigation
Drug & Alcohol testing
National Road Transport CPC parts 1 & 3
Interests
My main interests are aviation and computers. My love of aircraft encouraged me to learn to fly and I obtained my private pilot’s licence in XXXX. Since then I have flown to many places most of my family and friends have flown with me since I obtained my licence. I have owned a number of computers over the years and have built the last 3 computers I have owned. I am always the first person my friends and family call when they have a problem with their PC and I usually manage to resolve their problems by connecting directly to their computer over the internet and talking them through what I am doing.
Other information
I am computer literate and have experience of using Windows 98, ME, 2000 and Vista, Microso

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Hey
My Dad and I live in the same house, and he suffers from massive depression, which is strange because he was never like that.
Both my dad and I grew up the same way. During teenage years and through 20’s we partied alot, we traveled, love life, and we are both very smart. We both believe in the incredible power the Brain has, and we understand how to stay away from stress and look at things in the best way possible, ect…..
but in the last year, my dad has become MORE and MORE depressed, more stressed out, almost to the point of having a breakdown
He knows better, he knwos he shouldnt be upset over little thngs, but he cant stop
My dad is a diabetic, now for 30 years, (type 1) and he is deteriorating, foot surgeries, bad eyes, the works… and now he is suffering from bad nausea everyday
He goes to a Pain Management Clinic for his pain, and he sees a Psyciatrist for his stress and depression
Tried all meds, from zoloft to xanax and everything inbetween
Now i know that his body getting worse, sickness and pain is part of the problem, but that is NOT why im asking
its not JUST his sickness, he wouldnt be THIS bad over just that. For some reason he cant do ANYTHING, my dad used to love music, video games, traveling, ect… but now, he wont even do any of it
he tries, and gives up after 5 minutes. nothing is fun to him, he can never enjoy himself, he gets close to having break-downs… i mean he can barely eat now, NEVER sleeps
and this is my basic question here
aside from the sickness…. aside from just “trying” to do stuff (because that is a stupid answer) … and besides the normal depression/stress medicine
What is there? what can you do when everything else has failed???

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I have to make the subjects and verbs agree but they all look correct to me.
(1) Statistics from recent research suggests that humor in the workplace relieves job-related stress. (2) Reduced stress in the workplace in turn reduce illness and absenteeism. (3) It can also ease friction within an employee group, which then work together more productively. (4) Weinstein Associates is a consulting firm that hold workshops designed to make business people laugh. (5) In sessions held by one consultant, each of the participants practice making others laugh. (6) “Isn’t there enough laughs within you to spread the wealth?” the consultant asks the students.(7) She quotes Casey Stengal’s rule that the best way to keep your management job is to seperate the underlings who hate you from the ones who have not decided how they feel. (8) Such selfdeprecating comments in public is uncommon among business mangers, the consultant says.

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Punching Colleagues (but it really depends on how socially acceptable this is in your place of work).
Other amusing things include (but are not limited to):
- Shooting staples at a bin (bonus points if it bounces on the rim and goes in)
- Unwinding paperclips or making a paperclip chain
- Origami
- doodling
- Y!A

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1. According to President Calvin Coolidge, the proper relationship between government and business should
a. assume the greatest possible independence between the two.
b. stress mutual cooperation.
c. allow for government to dictate the terms of commerce, thereby promoting monopolies.
d. allow for business to influence politics, thereby promoting oligarchies.
A
2. During the early 1920s, many of America’s top business leaders embraced
a. free-market economics, which ensured the noninterference of the Supreme Court and federal government in business affairs.
b. a revival of the piecework system of production, because it kept laborers from organizing.
c. welfare capitalism, which allowed management to ease class tensions by increasing
labor satisfaction.
d. some form of socialism, as a way to alleviate intense labor union activity.
C
am i right anyone? please explain to me if i got it wrong

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I’ve had a pretty difficult past few yrs. I was in 2 year relationship and I found out I was pregnant. When I was 3 months pregnant I found out that my best friend took advantage of me when I was drunk. ( I should have been more responsible). His sister e-mailed me and told me that her brother told her that my baby might be his. I told boyfriend about it and he stood by myside. Then on Christmas eve he broke up with me. Minding you I just turned 9 months. He blew me off for the rest of the time but only went with me to my prenatal visits. 3days before my son was born he started dating this girl from work. And kept lying to me about he just needed to to himself. A couple days later we tooka paternity test and found out that he was not the father. I was devistated and went into a form of depression. I was so blinded by everything that he would tell me after that with all the ” I Love You’s” & the “I dont want to be with her” and messing with my head, he continued to have a whenever-he- felt-like-it- relationship with me. Then I became pregnant by him and he had me have an abortion because he didnt want it and I couldn’t take care of another child. But by the time i went to have the procedure done, i have an ectoptic pregnancy and had to have the procedure done regardless. Then few months later I met my husband. At first we didnt look at each other in any sexual kind of way since we both just came out of pretty bad relationships. The first week we talked non-stop, about anything and everything. He fell in love with my son from the day he met him. 2 months later we got married. Everything happened so fast. From the time we got married my husbands help went down hill. We got married in September. In september he found out he had kidney stones, October Pnemonia, November atrial fibulation (which is very rare in a 24yrs old.) December, upper respiratory infection that lasted 2weeks. January his Gerd and acid reflex was really bad. April he had another upper respiratory infection and found out he has asthma. This monday he just had surgery because he had an inguinal hernia. in December he got laid off from work. And we had to move back to my parents house in April, (due to financial problems.) July he decided to go back to school for his Bachlors’ in Business Management & got his job back working part-time. I just graduated from Medical Assisting and got my diploma last months. I can’t afford daycare so I can work or have anyone in my family that can watch him until I can find a daycare i can afford. Then being a first time mom while my sons going through his teribble two’s at one, and getting spoiled by my parents. I still havent found a job yet. Then my husband is also a rapper and put his dreams aside and decided that now is the time to start. He’d leave the house at 8′oclock and wont come back until 4 in the morning. I dont know what to do. My family tells me thats not good, and i trust & love him but have second thoughts. Can anyone give me advice on how to cope with stress?

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I work as a manager at Asian-style buffet store in mall food court. Of course, the work is challenging because of the competition. The food court has total of 4 Asian-style food stores (Two Chinese stores are under one management and the other one is Japanese Sakui). Although, two Chinese stores were right next to mine, I didn’t have that much of problems because my store had a different concept (buffet) than the others. One day, they went under construction, and reopened with exactly same concept as ours (BUFFET style, the same price, same kind of food). Since then, I‘ve been dealing with stresses every single day; the way the store is next to us, we easily ‘lose’ customers because they yell out the price, etc. After numerous problem complains, the mall management set up food court guidelines. Unfortunately, the Chinese stores are not following them (They would ONLY if the security guards come by). Therefore, I started stressing these problems to the mall management, but I feel noth

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I am currently off on the sick at the moment with taking anxiety attacks and stress, i work for the council as a care & support worker i have been doing this now for 2 years.
Its not the clients the reason why i am off work its due to the poor management of the place, ive had enough.
I want to look for another job, just working in retail, but i am very worried that i will not get a good reference from my previous employer im sure this will go against me as i have been off for 6weeks. Plus if i do find a job will i have to give my work 4 weeks notice as usual?
I can’t go back to my work as its seriously effecting my health.
What should i do? serious answers only please.
Thanks in advance

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