I’m So Stressed About Choosing A Major…i’d Like A Career With The Earth And Not Worry About Job Prospects?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Saturday 30 January 2010 10:13 pm

Hey everyone, i’m really stressed out, it’s the second semester of my sophomore year in college and I MUST choose a major… I would like a job with the earth or environment… the landlord of my old apt building was talking about maybe something to do environmentally with trash and recycling… I guess he has a point… I find science museums and traveling absolutely fascinating so that would be nice to have a job that would be like that, here is what my college offers that has some relevance and something i would consider…
Environmental Management
Geography
Geographic Information Sciences
Wildlife and Fisheries Sciences
Agronomy
Horticulture
Biology
What should i do? I’m really starting to stress, I would like to not worry about the job prospects and be able to have a job like 50 miles from home or 5000 miles away, know what i mean? and also have decent pay or the opportunity for traveling, I gueass it doesn’t have to be environment, but just something earth like and natural resources and things like that. thanks a lot!

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What About Skeptics Of Buddhism, Like Us ? Please Patiently Read Everything.?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Tuesday 5 January 2010 10:13 pm

Buddhism for beginners
(and sceptical Westerners)
Introduction
Now that Buddhism is such a fast-growing religion in the West, a lot of Westerners are attracted to its rational approach and rejection of an all-powerful deity. But all too often we Westerners quickly get stuck on the idea of rebirth and the various cultural traditions that have become a part of Buddhism in Asia.
I’ve been there myself – wondering if rebirth is for real, if karma is scientific, if Buddhism is rational, why I have to bow to a statue, and so on – and I almost gave up at one point. I’ve noticed also that some Westerners pop up on the Internet looking for others who’ve converted to Buddhism, hoping they can discover the trick to becoming a Buddhist despite a materialist upbringing.
So this page is a mixture of useful resources and my own personal experiences in fully accepting Dharma as a way of life. I hope it will be of some use to others on the same path.
•Where should I start?
•What is Buddhism?
•Are rebirth and karma for real?
•What is our purpose in life?
•What’s the difference between Theravada and Mahayana?
•Which tradition should I choose?
•How do I become a Buddhist?
•Which are good books to read?
Where should I start?
If there’s one place you should not start, it’s reincarnation/rebirth. Newcomers to Buddhism tend to open every book at the section on rebirth because what happens to us after we die is all-important in the monotheistic culture we come from.
But the Buddha wasn’t teaching rebirth as the goal of life. He said many times, “I teach suffering, and the way out of suffering.” That was his message, to make nirvana (Pali: nibbana) – the end of suffering – the goal. So the place to start is with the basics, the Four Noble Truths and a practice aimed at reducing suffering. If this seems worthwhile to you, you’re on your way.
In fact, the best way to start is by doing a lot of reading. You need to know about the basic principles of Buddhism, its founder, its history, the different traditions, and what it can do for you. Even though there’s a lot of stuff available free on the Internet, I still think a well-written book is the best way to go. For all of the above, try John Snelling’s The Buddhist Handbook : A Complete Guide to Buddhist Schools, Teaching, Practice, and History or Gill Farrer-Halls’ The Illustrated Encyclopedia of Buddhist Wisdom (which is also a handbook). These two books are both excellent primers to start off with. There’s also a short overview titled What is Buddhism? from the Buddhist Society of Western Australia.
For inspiring books written by Western monks who really understand Westerners’ problems, try Ajahn Sumedho’s The Mind and the Way : Buddhist Reflections of Life or Ajahn Jagaro’s True Freedom, which is available online:
•Chapter 1: True Freedom
•Chapter 2: Compassion – The Natural Expression of Awakening
•Chapter 3: Buddhism and God
•Chapter 4: Beyond Boredom and Depression
•Chapter 5: Buddhism and Vegetarianism
•Chapter 6: Death and Dying
Another book that’s a must-read is Thich Nhat Hanh’s little-known masterpiece, Old Path, White Clouds : Walking in the Footsteps of the Buddha, a beautiful and easy-to-read story of the Buddha’s life drawn from accounts in the Pali Canon and illustrated with line drawings.
For a thorough explanation of the nuts and bolts of the teachings and practice, check out Ayya Khema’s Being Nobody, Going Nowhere : Meditations on the Buddhist Path (very good at showing how ego rules our lives) or Henepola Gunaratana’s Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness : Walking the Buddha’s Path.
There are a lot of good books on Dharma (Pali: Dhamma), but I’d recommend starting of with the original Theravada Buddhism and checking out the Mahayana traditions like Zen and Tibetan when you have a grasp of the basics. What you read will depend on what particular problems brought you to Buddhism in the first place. Some authors, the Dalai Lama and Thich Nhat Hanh, for example, have written books on anger management.
But it’s important to practise too. In addition to following the Five Precepts, try practising Right Speech, generosity, compassion, being less self-centred, being less addicted to pleasures of the senses and being less concerned with possessions. And once you have a good grasp of the basic teachings and different traditions, it will be time to start meditating.
Your situation in life may affect your practice and progress. If you live near a temple or Buddhist group, you’ll be able to listen to Dharma talks, make Dharma friends and be with a community of like-minded people. If you don’t, there are always the Internet and Buddhist forums such as E-Sangha and the Buddhist Society of Western Australia.
I personally live in a Buddhist country where the majority of people don’t understand the deeper teachings of Buddhism, so their focus is on making merit for a better rebirth and participating in ceremonies. So I rely a lot on the Internet, on Amazon and a few friends. I rarely go to temples.
What is Buddhism?
The following article is from the website of the Buddhist Society of Western Australia. The author explains karma and rebirth in the traditionally accepted way and is somewhat sceptical about the origins of the Mahayana sutras, but otherwise it’s an excellent overview of Buddhism.
Introduction
For more than 2,500 years, the religion we know today as Buddhism has been the primary inspiration behind many successful civilizations, the source of great cultural achievements and a lasting and meaningful guide to the very purpose of life for millions of people. Today, large numbers of men and women from diverse backgrounds throughout our world are following the Teachings of the Buddha. So who was the Buddha and what are His Teachings?
The Buddha
The man who was to become the Buddha was born Siddhattha Gotama around 2,600 years ago as a Prince of a small territory near what is now the Indian-Nepalese border. Though he was raised in splendid comfort, enjoying aristocratic status, no amount of material pleasure could satisify the enquiring and philosophic nature of the young man. At the age of 29 he left palace and family to search for a deeper meaning in the secluded forests and remote mountains of North-East India. He studied under the wisest religious teachers and philosophers of his time, learning all they had to offer, but he found it was not enough. He then struggled alone with the path of self- mortification, taking that practice to the extremes of asceticism, but still to no avail.
Then, at the age of 35, on the full moon night of May, he sat beneath the branches of what is now known as the Bodhi Tree, in a secluded grove by the banks of the river Neranjara, and developed his mind in deep but luminous, tranquil meditation. Using the extraordinary clarity of such a mind with its sharp penetrative power generated by states of deep inner stillness, he turned his attention to investigate upon the hidden meanings of mind, universe and life. Thus he gained the supreme Enlightenment experience and from that time on he was known as the Buddha. His Enlightenment consisted of the most profound and all-embracing insight into the nature of mind and all phenomena. This Enlightenment was not a revelation from some divine being, but a discovery made by Himself and based on the deepest level of meditation and the clearest experience of the mind. It meant that He was no longer subject to craving, ill-will and delusion but was free from their shackles, having attained the complete ending of all forms of inner suffering and acquired unshakeable peace.
The Teachings of the Buddha
Having realized the goal of Perfect Enlightenment, the Buddha spent the next 45 years teaching a Path which, when diligently followed, will take anyone regardless of race, class or gender to that same Perfect Enlightenment. The Teachings about this Path are called the Dhamma, literally meaning “the nature of all things” or “the truth underlying existence”. It is beyond the scope of this pamphlet to present a thorough description of all of these Teachings but the following 7 topics will give you an overview of what the Buddha taught:
1. The way of Inquiry
The Buddha warned strongly against blind faith and encouraged the way of truthful inquiry. In one of His best known sermons, the Kalama Sutta, the Buddha pointed out the danger in fashioning one’s beliefs merely on the following grounds: on hearsay, on tradition, because many others say it is so, on the authority of ancient scriptures, on the word of a supernatural being, or out of trust in one’s teachers, elders, or priests. Instead one maintains an open mind and thoroughly investigates one’s own experience of life. When one sees for oneself that a particular view agrees with both experience and reason, and leads to the happiness of one and all, then one should accept that view and live up to it!
This principle, of course, applies to the Buddha’s own Teachings. They should be considered and inquired into using the clarity of mind born of meditation. Only when one sees these Teachings for oneself in the experience of insight, do these Teachings become one’s Truth and give blissful liberation.
The traveller on the way of inquiry needs the practice of tolerance. Tolerance does not mean that one embraces every idea or view but means one doesn’t get angry at what one can’t accept.
Further along the journey, what one once disagreed with might later be seen to be true. So in the spirit of tolerant inquiry, here are some more of the basic Teachings as the Buddha gave them.
2. The Four Noble Truths
The main Teaching of the Buddha focuses not on philosophical speculations about a Creator God or the origin of the universe, or on a heaven world ever after. The Teaching, instead, is centred on the down-to-earth reality of human suffering and the urgent need to find lasting relief from all forms of discontent. The Buddha gave the simile of a man shot by a poison-tipped arrow who, before he would call a doctor to treat him, demanded to know first who shot the arrow and where the arrow was made and of what and by whom and when and where … this foolish man would surely die before his questions could be well answered. In the same way, the Buddha said, the urgent need of our existence is to find lasting relief from recurrent suffering, which robs us of happiness and leaves us in strife.
Philosophical speculations are of secondary importance and, anyway, they are best left until after one has well trained the mind in meditation to the stage where one has the ability to examine the matter clearly and find the Truth for oneself.
Thus, the central Teaching of the Buddha, around which all other teachings revolve, is the Four Noble Truths:
1.That all forms of being, human and otherwise, are afflicted with suffering.
2.That the cause of this suffering is Craving, born of the illusion of a soul (see below, note 7).
3.That this suffering has a lasting end in the Experience of Enlightenment (Nibbana) which is the complete letting go of the illusion of soul and all consequent desire and aversion.
4.That this peaceful and blissful Enlightenment is achieved through a gradual training, a Path that is called the Middle Way or the Eightfold Path.
It would be mistaken to label this Teaching as ‘pessimistic’ on the grounds that it begins by centring on suffering. Rather, Buddhism is ‘realistic’ in that it unflinchingly faces up to the truth of life’s many sufferings and it is ‘optimistic’ in that it shows a final end of the problem of suffering – Nibbana, Enlightenment in this very life! Those who have achieved this ultimate peace are the inspiring examples who demonstrate once and for all that Buddhism is far from pessimistic, but it is a Path to true Happiness.
3. The Middle Way or Eightfold Path
The Way to end all suffering is called the Middle Way because it avoids the two extremes of sensual indulgence and self-mortification. Only when the body is in reasonable comfort but not over-indulged has the mind the clarity and strength to meditate deeply and discover the Truth. This Middle Way consists of the diligent cultivation of Virtue, Meditation and Wisdom, which is explained in more detail as the Noble Eightfold Path.
1.Right Understanding
2.Right Thought
3.Right Speech
4.Right Action
5.Right Livelihood
6.Right Effort
7.Right Mindfulness
8.Right Concentration
Right Speech, Action and Livelihood constitute the training in Virtue or Morality. For a practising Buddhist it consists of maintaining the five Buddhist Precepts, which are to refrain from:
1.Deliberately causing the death of any living being;
2.Intentionally taking for one’s own the property of another;
3.Sexual misconduct, in particular adultery;
4.Lying and breaking promises;
5.Drinking alcohol or taking stupefying drugs which lead to lack of mindfulness.
Right Effort, Mindfulness and Concentration refer to the practice of Meditation, which purifies the mind through the experience of blissful states of inner stillness and empowers the mind to penetrate the meaning of life through profound moments of insight.
Right Understanding and Thought are the manifestation of Buddha-Wisdom which ends all suffering, transforms the personality and produces unshakeable serenity and tireless compassion.
According to the Buddha, without perfecting the practice of Virtue it is impossible to perfect Meditation, and without perfecting Meditation it is impossible to arrive at Enlightenment Wisdom. Thus the Buddhist Path is a Gradual Path, a Middle Way consisting of Virtue, Meditation and Wisdom as explained in the Noble Eightfold Path leading to happiness and liberation.
4. Kamma
Kamma means ‘action’. The Law of Kamma means that there are inescapable results of our actions. There are deeds of body, speech or mind that lead to others’ harm, one’s own harm, or to the harm of both. Such deeds are called bad (or ‘unwholesome’) kamma. They are usually motivated by greed, hatred or delusion. Because they bring painful results, they should not be done.
There are also deeds of body, speech or mind that lead to others’ well being, one’s own well being, or to the well being of both. Such deeds are called good (or ‘wholesome’) kamma. They are usually motivated by generosity, compassion or wisdom. Because they bring happy results, they should be done as often as possible.
Thus much of what one experiences is the result of one’s own previous kamma. When misfortune occurs, instead of blaming someone else, one can look for any fault in one’s own past conduct. If a fault is found, the experience of its consequences will make one more careful in the future. When happiness occurs, instead of taking it for granted, one can look to see if it is the result of good kamma. If so, the experience of its pleasant results will encourage more good kamma in the future.
The Buddha pointed out that no being whatsoever, divine or otherwise, has any power to stop the consequences of good and bad kamma. The fact that one reaps just what one sows gives to the Buddhist a greater incentive to avoid all forms of bad kamma while doing as much good kamma as possible.
Though one cannot escape the results of bad kamma, one can lessen their effect. A spoon of salt mixed in a glass of pure water makes the whole very salty, whereas the same spoon of salt mixed in a freshwater lake hardly changes the taste of the water. Similarly, the result of a bad kamma in a person habitually doing only a small amount of good kamma is painful indeed, whereas the result of the same bad kamma in a person habitually doing a great deal of good kamma is only mildly felt.
This natural Law of Kamma becomes the force behind, and reason for, the practice of morality and compassion in our society.
5. Rebirth
The Buddha remembered clearly many of His past lives. Even today, many Buddhist monks, nuns and others also remember their past lives. Such a strong memory is a result of deep meditation. For those who remember their past life, Rebirth is an established fact which puts this life in a meaningful perspective.
The Law of Kamma can only be understood in the framework of many lifetimes, because it sometimes takes this long for Kamma to bear its fruit. Thus Kamma and Rebirth offer a plausible explanation to the obvious inequalities of birth; why some are born into great wealth whereas others are born into pathetic poverty; why some children enter this world healthy and full-limbed whereas others enter deformed and diseased… The fruits of bad Kamma are not regarded as a punishment for evil deeds but as lessons from which to learn, for example, how much better to learn about the need for generosity than to be reborn among the poor!
Rebirth takes place not only within this human realm. The Buddha pointed out that the realm of human beings is but one among many. There are many separate heavenly realms and grim lower realms, too, realms of the animals and realms of the ghosts. Not only can human beings go to any of these realms in the next life, but we can come from any of these realms into our present life. This explains a common objection against Rebirth that argues “How can there be Rebirth when there are ten times as many people alive today than there were 50 years ago?” The answer is that people alive today have come from many different realms.
Understanding that we can come and go between these different realms, gives us more respect and compassion for the beings in these realms. It is unlikely, for example, that one would exploit animals when one has seen the link of Rebirth that connects them with us.
6. No Creator God
The Buddha pointed out that no God or priest nor any other kind of being has the power to interfere in the working out of someone else’s Kamma. Buddhism, therefore, teaches the individual to take full responsibility for themselves. For example, if you want to be wealthy then be trustworthy, diligent and frugal, or if you want to live in a heaven realm then always be kind to others. There is no God to ask favours from, or to put it another way there is no corruption possible in the workings of Kamma.
Do Buddhists believe that a Supreme Being created the universe? Buddhists would first ask which universe do you mean? This present universe, from the moment of the ‘big bang’ up to now, is but one among countless millions in Buddhist cosmology. The Buddha gave an estimate of the age of a single universe-cycle of around 37,000 million years, which is quite plausible when compared to modern astrophysics. After one universe- cycle ends another begins, again and again, according to impersonal law. A Creator God is redundant in this scheme.
No being is a Supreme Saviour, according to the Buddha, because whether God, human, animal or whatever, all are subject to the Law of Kamma. Even the Buddha had no power to save. He could only point out the Truth so that the wise could see it for themselves. Everyone must take responsibility for their own future well-being, and it is dangerous to give that responsibility to another.
7. The Illusion of Soul
The Buddha taught that there is no soul, no essential and permanent core to a living being. Instead, that which we call a ‘living being’, human or other, can be seen to be but a temporary coming together of many activities and parts – when complete it is called a ‘living being’, but after the parts separate and the activities cease it is not called a ‘living being’ anymore. Like an advanced computer assembled of many parts and activities, only when it is complete and performs coherent tasks is it called a ‘computer’, but after the parts are disconnected and the activities cease it is no longer called a ‘computer’. No essential permanent core can be found which we can truly call ‘the computer’, just so, no essential permanent core can be found which we can call ‘the soul’.
Yet Rebirth still occurs without a soul. Consider this simile: on a Buddhist shrine one candle, burnt low, is about to expire. A monk takes a new candle and lights it from the old. The old candle dies, the new candle burns bright. What went across from the old candle to the new? There was a causal link but no thing went across! In the same way, there was a causal link between your previous life and your present life, but no soul has gone across.
Indeed, the illusion of a soul is said by the Buddha to be the root cause of all human suffering. The illusion of ’soul’ manifests as the ‘Ego’. The natural unstoppable function of the Ego is to control. Big Egos want to control the world, average Egos try to control their immediate surroundings of home, family and workplace, and almost all Egos strive to control what they take to be their own body and mind. Such control manifests as desire and aversion, it results in a lack of both inner peace and outer harmony. It is this Ego that seeks to acquire possessions, manipulate others and exploit the environment. Its aim is its own happiness but it invariably produces suffering. It craves for satisfaction but it experiences discontent. Such deep- rooted suffering cannot come to an end until one sees, through deep and powerful meditation, that the idea ‘me and mine’ is no more than a mirage.
These seven topics are a sample of what the Buddha taught. Now, to complete this brief sketch of Buddhism, let’s look at how these Teachings are practised today.
Types of Buddhism
One could say that there is only one type of Buddhism and that is the huge collection of Teachings that were spoken by the Buddha. The original Teachings are found in the ‘Pali Canon’, the ancient scripture of Theravada Buddhism, which is widely accepted as the oldest reliable record of the Buddha’s words. Theravada Buddhism is the dominant religion in Sri Lanka, Burma, Thailand, Cambodia and Laos.
Between 100 to 200 years after the passing away of the Buddha, the Sangha (the monastic community) split over the political question of ‘Who runs the Sangha?’ A controversy over some monastic rules was decided by a committee of Arahats (fully Enlightened monks or nuns) against the views of the majority of monks. The disgruntled majority resented what they saw as the excessive influence of the small number of Arahats in monastery affairs. From then on, over a period of several decades, the disaffected majority partially succeeded in lowering the exalted status of the Arahat and raising in its place the ideal of the Bodhisattva (an unenlightened being training to be a Buddha). Previously unknown scriptures, supposedly spoken by the Buddha and hidden in the dragon world, then appeared giving a philosophical justification for the superiority of the Bodhisattva over the allegedly ’selfish’ Arahat. This group of monks and nuns were first known as the ‘Maha Sangha’, meaning ‘the great (part) of the monastic community’.
Later, after impressive development, they called themselves the ‘Mahayana’, the ‘Greater Vehicle’ while quite disparagingly calling the older Theravada ‘Hinayana’, the ‘Inferior Vehicle’. Mahayana still retains most of the original teachings of the Buddha (in the Chinese scriptures these are known as the ‘Agama’ and in the Tibetan version as the ‘Kangyur’) but these core teachings were mostly overwhelmed by layers of expansive interpretations and wholly new ideas. The Mahayana of China, still vibrant in Taiwan, reflects an earlier phase of this development, the Mahayana of Vietnam, Korea and Japan (mostly Zen) is a later development, and the Mahayana of Tibet and Mongolia is a much later development still.
Buddhism’s relevance to the world today
Today, Buddhism continues to gain ever wider acceptance in many lands far beyond its original home. Here in Australia, many Australians through their own careful choice are adopting Buddhism’s peaceful, compassionate and responsible ways.
The Buddhist Teaching of the Law of Kamma offers our society a just and incorruptible foundation and reason for the practice of a moral life. It is easy to see how a wider embracing of the Law of Kamma would lead any country towards a stronger, more caring and virtuous society.
The Teaching of Rebirth places this present short lifetime of ours in a broader perspective, giving more meaning to the vital events of birth and death. The understanding of Rebirth removes so much of the tragedy and grief surrounding death and turns one’s attention to the quality of a lifetime, rather than its mere length.
From the very beginning, the practice of meditation has been at the very heart of the Buddhist Way. Today, meditation grows increasingly popular as the proven benefits to both mental and physical well being become more widely known. When stress is shown to be such a major cause of human suffering, the quieting practice of meditation becomes ever more valued.
Today’s world is too small and vulnerable to live angry and alone, thus the need for tolerance, love and compassion is so very important. These qualities of mind, essential for happiness are formally developed in Buddhist meditation and then diligently put into practice in everyday life.
Forgiveness and gentle tolerance, harmlessness and peaceful compassion are well known trademarks of Buddhism, they are given freely and broadly to all kinds of beings, including animals of course, and also, most importantly, to oneself. There is no place for dwelling in guilt or self-hatred in Buddhism, not even a place for feeling guilty about feeling guilty!
Teachings and practices such as these are what bring about qualities of gentle kindness and unshakeable serenity, identified with the Buddhist religion for 25 centuries and sorely needed in today’s world. In all its long history, no war has ever been fought in the name of Buddhism. It is this peace and this tolerance, growing out of a profound yet reasonable philosophy, which makes Buddhism so vitally relevant to today’s world.
Are rebirth and karma for real?
Is rebirth for real – either as a human or in one of the other realms? This is the question most Westerners ask as soon as they become interested in Buddhism. Karma (Pali: Kamma) – the law of cause and effect – operates across multiple lifetimes, but where’s the proof that there is any life other than the current one?
It’s a complex subject and each tradition has its own explanation. It isn’t uncommon for different teachers in the same tradition to have a different take on rebirth. One thing’s for sure, there is no scientific proof of rebirth (yet). There are rational explanations, but they all rest on unprovable assumptions.
One way to approach the question of rebirth is suggested by Thanissaro Bhikkhu, who says, “You don’t have to believe in rebirth, you just have to take it as a working hypothesis.” Other teachers, such as Ajahn Summedho, have a similar view, that since we can never know what will happen after death, it makes sense to practise Dharma (Pali: Dhamma) and live this life in the best way possible.
Some well-known monks, Ajahn Brahm and P.A. Payutto among them, say that when meditators reach the third or fourth jhana (level of absorbtion) they are able to “read their past lives” as the Buddha did and experience the truth of rebirth. But this ability is by no means universal, even among meditation masters.
Another explanation championed by Buddhadasa, Thailand’s most revered monk, is that rebirth in a series of physical bodies is “conventional talk” to make the subject understandable for the masses, but in “Dharma talk” what the Buddha really meant was that each life was the arising of the ego in the mind. So we experience “death” and “rebirth” (of the ego) many times each day. Similarly, the six realms of existence all correspond to states of mind. In the same way, the cause and effect of karma can be observed in our own mental states – when we do good deeds it results in a wholesome mental state, when we do bad deeds, we experience unwholesome mental states.
This rational explanation of rebirth and karma doesn’t necessarily exclude the traditional view. It augments it. What works for me is to take both of them as working hypotheses and practise accordingly. Recalling the Buddha’s story about the man shot with a poisoned arrow, if we need to have every detail of the teaching proved to us at the outset, we’ll be dead before we start practising.
What is our purpose in life?
The traditional answer to this is that our purpose is to attain nirvana and stop the endless cycle of rebirths and suffering. But the idea of a general purpose for mankind suggests that someone or something created that purpose, which in turn suggests an omnipotent deity.
The way I think of it is that we have no pre-ordained purpose. We evolved, and here we are. Because we also evolved language and conceptual thinking, we got stuck with this concept of a self, an ego that makes us feel separate from everything else. The ego needs constant reassurance of its importance, which is why we cling to our views and defend them fanatically, and why we are constantly criticizing others. Our ego rules our lives. It is terrified of being snuffed out.
We handle this in different ways. Some of us have lots of kids so we can feel that a part of us lives on forever through our descendants. Some of us perform heroic deeds so that our names will live on in history forever. Some of us get onto Ripley’s Believe It Or Not with the world’s longest moustache or beating the world record for smashing melons with our head, or some such nonsense, so that we’ll achieve digital immortality. Some of us cling to the idea that a god will give us eternal life in some form after death.
For those of us who don’t find this pseudo-immortality or unguaranteed immortality satisfying, there’s a need to create our own purpose in life. This is where Buddhism fits the bill nicely. Instead of being ruled by the ego and its fears, get rid of it! Being rid of the ego and the suffering it brings is what Ajahn Jagaro called “True Freedom” – a very appealing idea for all of us.
If we don’t achieve true freedom in this life, we should get another chance in a future life. But simply diminishing the ego and increasing freedom in this life seems like a worthwhile purpose to me.
What’s the difference between Theravada and Mahayana?
To preserve the monastic order, the Buddha set down 227 rules for a bhikkhu (monk) to observe and 311 for a bhikkhuni (nun). Before his death (known as parinirvana) he said that some minor rules could be changed.
Within a short time of his passing away there was disagreement over what could be changed and different sects emerged. The more reformist sects later called themselves Mahayana (greater vehicle) and referred to the conservative sects as Hinayana (lesser vehicle). The only conservative sect remaining today is Theravada, which is prevalent in Sri Lanka, Burma and Thailand. Theravada recognises the Pali Canon as its scriptures and a variety of ancient Theravadin commentaries.
Whereas Theravada spread to the south and east, Mahayana moved to the northwest through what is now Pakistan and Afghanistan and then across Central Asia to China, Tibet, Vietnam, Korea and Japan. For historical reasons, the language of Mahayana scriptures was Sanskrit and that of Theravada was Pali. Hence the difference in spelling of some common Buddhist terms: Nirvana/Nibbana, Sutra/Sutta, Karma/Kamma, Dharma/Damma, etc. Westerners are more familiar with Mahayana Sanskrit terms.
Mahayana also has its own scriptures in addition to the Pali Canon, the most important of which is the Lotus Sutra. These sutras are purported to be the Buddha’s secret “higher” teachings, which were handed down only to those who were ready for them – an idea emphasised at the beginning of the Lotus Sutra.
Apart from a modified monastic code which made monasticism possible in harsh environments such as Tibet, Mahayana emphasises the Bodhisattva Ideal, where a man vows not to achieve final enlightenment until all sentient beings have been saved. So anyone helping others to achieve enlightenment can be considered a bodhisattva. In Theravada, the term bodhisattva usually refers only to the historical Buddha in his previous lives. Historically, some Mahayanists consider Theravadins to be selfish for seeking enlightenment only for themselves, while some Theravadins consider Mahayanists to have deviated from what the Buddha taught.
The various sutras and sects of Mahayana reflect different ways of reaching enlightenment appropriate for different people with different levels of ability. Because of this, a number of “mythical” buddhas and bodhisattvas are revered and used as objects of meditation. Theravadins revere only the historical Buddha and only his image is seen in temples.
Mahayana tends to emphasise the concept of sunyata (void-ness) in its teachings and tends to have a more specific idea of what passes from rebirth to rebirth (consciousness, comprising awareness and memory).
Personally, I found that the more I read about Mahayana and the Tibetan tradition known as Vajrayana, the more I accepted that all sects are going in the same direction and there is no point in considering any one of them better than another.
Which tradition should I choose?
I suggest reading about Theravada first and then investigating the other traditions to see which suits you best. Your decision may also depend on your Buddhist friends and what is available where you live.
As far as I know, the main traditions known in the West are Theravada, Tibetan, Zen, Pure Land and Nichiren. One myth that seems to have grown up over the years is that with Mahayana one can reach enlightenment in one lifetime whereas with Theravada it takes aeons. This notion seems to have been pushed by the Chinese Zen patriarchs, in particular Huang Po, as illustrated in The Zen Teaching of Huang Po. In modern times the idea has been spread by influential author-scholar John Blofeld, who translated Huang Po’s works into English and wrote several excellent books on Buddhism. But it all seems pretty ridiculous because how could anyone know how many lives ago any particular person started consciously working towards enlightenment?
Blofeld followed Zen and then Tibetan Buddhist Tantrism, describing both as the “Short Path.” However, it isn’t difficult to see that any tradition that emphasises meditation – as the Buddha did – will be a short path. In the past century, the Thai Forest Tradition is a good example of a Theravadin tradition that produced a number of enlightened masters.
According to Blofeld, Mahayana and Tibetan Buddhism in particular offer ways of practice to suit people at every level. After all, not everyone has an aptitude for meditation. A lot of people prefer something simpler, such as praying, chanting, various forms of devotion and pilgrimages. He describes Zen and Theravada as “formless,” meaning the practice is mostly just you and your mind. But in fact there’s a lot more to both than just meditation.
Tibetan Buddhism seems to attract Westerners because there are now a lot of Tibetan lamas and monasteries in the West, because of the charisma of the Dalai Lama, because it can be a “Short Path,” because of its reputation for developing psychic powers and because of its many varied methods of practice. However, Tibetan Buddhism has absorbed much of the ancient, shamanistic Bon religion of Tibet, so it’s wise to read up on Tibet thoroughly before committing to it.
Zen attracts Westerners because it’s something of a “back to basics” tradition with an emphasis on meditation and very little ritual. Sakyamuni, the historical Buddha, is revered rather than the other mythical buddhas and bodhisattvas of the Mahayana sutras. Although it originated in China, the type of Zen practised in the West is mostly Japanese.
Theravada attracts Western practicioners because it is seen as the oldest and purest form of Buddhism, one that reveres only Sakyamuni and in theory concentrates on meditation. The Thai Forest Tradition which developed in the late 1800s was an effort to practise exactly as the Buddha did, wandering in the jungle and meditating in caves. Although the jungle is largely gone now, a number of Westerners joined Ajahn Chah’s international monastery in the 1970s and later spread the practice in other countries: Ajahn Jagaro and Ajahn Brahm in Australia, Thanissaro Bhikkhu in the USA and Ajahn Sumedho in the UK. For a brief look at the origins of this tradition, see Thanissaro Bhikkhu’s Customs of the Noble Ones. For a more detailed treatment, read Forest Recollections.
Pure Land was once widespread in China and is still practised among Chinese around the world. A refined form of Pure Land (Jodo and Shin Jodo) developed in Japan and has spread to the West. Pure Land involves purifying the mind by chanting the name of the Amitabha (Amida) Buddha to gain help in reaching a realm after death from where it is easy to reach enlightenment. On a deeper level, Pure Land equals pure mind and Amitabha represents our own qualities rather than an external saviour. Pure Land is sometimes combined with Zen practice.
Nichiren is a homegrown Japanese tradition advocating chanting of a phrase hailing the Lotus Sutra. An offshoot of Nichiren is the lay organisation, Sokka Gakai International.
There are a few Buddhist sects and organisations that are controversial in some way, usually because of their founder/leader or his particular beliefs. Before getting involved with Sokka Gakai (SGI), the Friends of the Western Buddhist Order (FWBO), Shugden or Diamond Way (Karma Kagyu), you might want to google for information about their background.
How do I become a Buddhist?
Although there is a ceremony of taking the Three Refuges (the Buddha, the Dharma, and the Sangha), there isn’t any “conversion” involved and you aren’t required to renounce any other religion or beliefs. In fact, it seems to be more of a social statement to show others that you have become a Buddhist.
In my opinion, once you accept the Buddha’s teachings as a way of life and try to follow the Five Precepts for lay people, you’re a Buddhist. For me, this involved a lot of reading Dharma and listening to Dharma talks on the Internet. Rather than read the scriptures (which are often difficult), I chose books by monks and nuns who already had a deep knowledge of Dharma through study and practice, and who had a talent for explaining it. I looked at how Buddhism developed over the millennia and decided to start off with Theravada, which is the original form of Buddhism based on the Pali Canon. Later, I investigated the various Mahayana traditions too.
It was obvious to me that reducing the power of the ego to control our lives was a foundation of Buddhism. For my practice, I concentrated on Right Speech (a component of the Noble Eightfold Path) because I thought it would give the fastest results. I expected if I started being nice to people, eventually they’d be nicer to me. That happened, but much more than that. I found myself examining my intentions every time I felt like defending my views, arguing with someone, contradicting them, criticizing them, comparing myself with them or judging them in any way at all.
Pretty soon it was obvious that much of what I said or did was designed to boost my sense of self-worth and that “true freedom” was to escape this tyranny of the ego.
Later I started meditating, since this is the only way to experience the truth of the teaching rather than just understanding them intellectually. Even though the majority of people born into Buddhism may not meditate, it’s essential for the serious Buddhist.
Some Westerners have a problem with whether they are or aren’t a Buddhist, usually because they still have some belief in god or because they haven’t come to believe in rebirth. The following talk by Ajahn Jagaro, a Western monk of the Thai Forest Tradition, will be helpful for anyone asking himself, “Am I a Buddhist?”
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Am I a Buddhist?
by Ajahn Jagaro
Teaching people who have only recently encountered Buddhism I am often asked the question “How do you become a Buddhist?” or “How do you know when you are a Buddhist?” This type of enquiry is indeed healthy and to be encouraged not only amongst those new to Buddhism but also for people born and raised as Buddhists. So go ahead and ask yourself: “Am I a Buddhist?”
I expect that there will be many who will answer “Yes” and those who say “No”, but I wonder how many will be thinking “Oh … Ahm,.. I don’t know.” So let us contemplate this business of being a Buddhist a bit more.
To begin our enquiry it may be worthwhile to know what the Buddha said on the matter. The following episode is taken from the Buddhist scriptures (Anguttara Nikaya, Vol IV):
“Once, the Lord dwelt amongst the Sakyans in the Banyan Tree Monastery at Kapilavatthu, and while there, Mahanama the Sakyan came to him and asked;
“How, Lord, does one become a lay disciple?”
“When one has taken refuge in the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Sangha, then one is a lay disciple”.
“How, Lord, is a lay disciple virtuous?”
“When a lay disciple abstains from killing, stealing, sexual misconduct, lying and drinking intoxicants, then he is virtuous.”
Here the Buddha clearly states that by taking refuge in the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha one becomes a disciple or, in modern terminology, a Buddhist. The classical formula of going for refuge, which has been passed down from the time of the Buddha is as follows;
Buddham Saranam Gacchami (I go for refuge to the Buddha)
Dhammam Saranam Gacchami (I go for refuge to the Dhamma)
Sangham Saranam Gacchami (I go for refuge to the Sangha)
However one does not become a Buddhist through the mere repetition of these words nor by the performance of any other ceremony ritual or initiation. On the other hand, though one has not performed any ceremony or ritual, one may still be a Buddhist. Put simply, this means that no one can make you a Buddhist nor can anyone stop you from being a Buddhist. It is a volitional choice that one makes when one has sufficient confidence in the Teacher and the Teaching. In the commentaries to the scriptures it explains this as, “It is an act of consciousness devoid of defilements, motivated by confidence in and reverence for the Triple Gem”…
Here I would like to relate something of my own experience to help explain this point. When I first came in contact with Buddhism I did not consider myself a religious person. If anything, I thought of myself as an atheist and felt that religion had little relevance to real life. However, I did find the Buddha’s Teachings and in particular the practice of meditation very appealing. I had a desire to find out more about it and this lead me into a monastery where I was eventually ordained as a monk.
One day a young Thai student, wanting to practise his English, casually asked me “Are you a Buddhist?” But in my mind I wondered whether or not I was a Buddhist. I must confess that it was a strange position to be in – a Buddhist monk who doesn’t know whether he is a Buddhist! Yet that situation persisted for over a year before the meaning of both the question and the answer became clear to me.
During that year as I continued to study and practise the Dhamma I began to feel very comfortable with the teaching and increasingly confident that this was the way for me. With this came the conscious recognition that I had chosen the Buddha as my Teacher and considered him as the embodiment of the spiritual ideals of peace and liberation. I had also chosen to follow the path contained in his Teaching (the Dhamma) being confident that it would lead to liberation. And while on this path I would seek the guidance and try to emulate the example of all the noble disciples who constitute the Sangha. It was indeed wonderful to discover that I was a Buddhist and not just a Buddhist monk!
Now becoming a Buddhist does not mean that one has to either agree with or believe in everything that is taught or practised by all the countless Buddhist sects and groups throughout the world. Nor do we have to believe that it is the only way and that all the other religions are no good. It simply means that having looked at and probed into this teaching of the Buddha, having tried it and having seen that it does work, one has confidence in it and chooses to take refuge in the Buddha, the Dhamma, and Sangha.
However if you are still unsure as to whether you are a Buddhist or you are not, don’t worry about it, just keep on practising.
With Metta,
Jagaro Bhikkhu.
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Help Me Find A Job I Like That Pays Decent?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Monday 14 December 2009 4:15 pm

i am 39 yrs old and have been in management for 16 yrs and is the only skill i have. i really dont like the stress and hours that go into it. i want to learn something new but that goes with making less while i learn a new trade. i cant really afford to make less so i feel stuck in a crappy job like everyone else. i want to enjoy life but i cant at this job i am always stressed…help me

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How Do You Like The First Three Chapters Of A Short Teen Book I’m Writing?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Wednesday 11 November 2009 4:13 pm

Chapter 1: Simply Lucy
The hot summer sun shone through the windows in the family room as I sat waiting for something to happen. No matter how high I turned up air conditioning, the rays of heat beat across my body. But I imagine that no matter how high I blasted the a/c I’d still be hot with excitement. I was waiting.
Every summer day spent at home was the same. Some down time is always good, but my least favorite part of the summer is always those weeks and weeks of nothing before school begins. Usually, the weeks aren’t as bad because I have something to look forward to, but the international band was done and the next big event was marching band. I’d say that I hate it if I didn’t love playing my trumpet, but nine hours a day of marching back and forth a parking lot under blazing heat breaking only for ten minutes every few hours? Not exactly my idea of fun. However, the people in the band are wonderful enough to make this experience glorious. So why am I dreading it this year? Because of something I learned last year, band is about to become a whole lot more challenging.
I consider myself a musician in training, so I’m not dreading the music. I absolutely love playing my trumpet and I really would like to turn this hobby into a career. So I practice religiously and I’ve auditioned for and made a number of bands outside of the school upperclassmen band. This year I made an orchestra hosted by the local music school and that will be my first real orchestra. I’m super excited especially because I’m one of the only sophomore trumpet players to make the orchestra at the local music school ever, except of course for him.
He is one of the best trumpet players I have ever heard or at least for a person my age. So naturally, he’s easily found sitting at the top of the section of the most prestige bands and orchestras. To top it off, he goes to my school, lucky me, forever shadowing a prodigy. What this means is no matter how good I get, after he’s graduated, I still get to live in his shadow. Also, no matter how hard I work, I will always be overshadowed by him and never receive the respect I deserve. Oh how I long to cream him! I wish I could challenge him in an epic battle in front of the whole band and take his title from him. Unfortunately, I’m not quite ready to do that yet and even if I could I wouldn’t. Why? For some reason I have fallen head over heels for him.
He’s really sweet and sensitive, but most importantly shares my passion for music and trumpet. Being around him makes me feel so empowered and he encourages me every step of the way. I also deeply admire his trumpet playing, his time management ability, and how in his heart he seems to really know why he is here. He has all these wondrous qualities and yet doesn’t boast about it. I suppose one flaw that will make that other girls turn away is that he’s not exactly that good looking. But I still have a strong attraction to him. So I guess because of his personality, it’s no doubt that I like him.
Looking at all the time we spend together, one would think, “Hey, Lucy, you have a really good chance with this boy!” but I know better; I don’t stand a chance. For one thing, to him I’m a little girl. He’ll be a senior and I’ll be a sophomore. I know that that is only two years, but last year I was introduced to him as the freshman who will be in his band with him, and I have a reputation for being the young trumpet player. One of my nicknames is “Little Zach” or “Future Zach”, so the young girl is what he will know me as.
Another is that I am not attractive either. I’m very fat. I look like I swallowed a whale whole one morning and was too lazy (and too addicted to chocolate) to digest it all. My hair is crazy; mid-length goldish brown hair with bangs that never go the way I want them too. It’s usually in a sloppy mess. I suppose in my defense I have a charismatic smile and people say that my deep blue eyes are pretty. But even they are covered by big glasses. I truly believe that I have the power to fix this, but I suppose I’m just too lazy to get around and start.
But I’m not sure if I’m ready for everyone to know about how I like him or that I like him at all. Only three people in this world know about it, myself, one of my best friends and a girl who guessed it out of me and I’ve regretted telling her ever since. I scared and excited for the drama this will bring to the school year between me and Zach and between my best friend and hers (who is a whole new bowl of wax). Not to mention the extremely hard classes I elected to take. But no matter what life will bring for me, I will survive and remain simply Lucy. So this is the story of my sophomore year.
Chapter 2: Mary
“He responded, he responded!” she circled my chair and plopped on my bed. Her blue eyes were wild with anticipation and excitement. “Maybe this is the start to something! Maybe he’ll finally notice me!”
I grinned, entertained with her joy. “Well, what did he say?”
“He asked me how my summer was!”
I breathed in to reply but then held my breath sharp in my mouth. That’s all? That little comment was what was exciting her so? “Oh,” I said a little melodramatically, “And what did you say?”
“I…” she paused sensing how unimpressed I was. She sloughed back a little and sighed. “Do you really think that this means nothing?”
“No, no, no, no, no! For your situation right now any form of communication is very good. It just wasn’t much”
“Is that bad?”
I sighed, “Well, it definitely could be worse.”
At this Mary beamed. “Perhaps this could be the start of something!” However her big smile faded away quickly. I didn’t need to ask her what was wrong; I could tell that she knew that nothing would happen. Jumping off the bed, she dragged herself over to my mirror. She played with her short fire-red, bouncy hair and took off her glasses exposing her big, deep blue eyes; comparable to my own. Sighing she breathed, “I suppose he would never love someone as terribly ugly as me.”
I shot her a frustrated look. I hate it when she does this. Mary is so pretty but never gives herself any credit for it. I suppose she doesn’t care if the whole world thinks she is gorgeous as long as John doesn’t notice.
John is completely different from Zach. Unlike Zach, John is an attractive boy. He has a wonderful smile and dark brown hair which is never consistently the same length. His shoulders are strong and his skin is quite tan. John towers over Mary and Zach as well. However, he also plays trumpet, not very well, but I suppose he’s decent.
The main problem with John is he has a dead personality. He’s polite sure, but he says nothing and sits through life as if someone has a gun up to his head. He also barely knows that Mary exists which could prove to be potentially problematic.
“You know very well that you’re pretty, you don’t need me to remind you!”
“Yes, but then why doesn’t he love me?”
“John doesn’t know you!”
She paused, clearly contemplating what I had said. “Well maybe, but if I were beautiful he’d want to know me!”
“Mary” I turned and faced her, giving her a serious look, “do you honestly think that he is brave enough to walk up to a pretty girl and say ‘hey, you look gorgeous, wanna go out?’ No he’s not. Remember that just because you don’t know him doesn’t mean that I don’t either. But, this year when you sit next to each other in band…”
“Oh stop it! You know that I’m not good enough to sit next to him on either side.”
“And you also know that you purposely say that stuff so you won’t let yourself down when it doesn’t happen”
“I most certainly do not!” She looked a way with an air of discomfort. Mary isn’t a confident girl. She has so many talents and good in her but she can’t see it because she views herself narrowly and one-sided. This is a reason why most people want her to give up on John because he’s blinding her. I suppose you could call me a pro- Mary/John person, I know that she does, but in reality, I’m really just a pro-Mary’s happiness person. I’ll never tell her that because I’m worried about how she’d take knowing that I don’t really care whether she goes out with him or not. That could come off as something it isn’t and ruin our friendship.
“I honestly believe that I’m not good enough. I mean listen to yourself, listen to Zach! You guys are AMAZING! And then listen to John, he’s really good! And then listen to me. You’re ears would just… die”
“Stop that! You’re not bad! John isn’t all that good and I’m not amazing.”
“Come on, you made the orchestra at the U, you’re obviously amazing! Cathy could beat me easy!”
“No she couldn’t!” Cathy is another sophomore trumpet player. The band director, Mr. Beirbell, put all of the first chairs of the freshman band into the upperclassmen band. I was already there for my freshman year so that means that Cathy was first chair. I’ll always have a spot in my heart that fears her because she used to be real competition for me until I had a huge trumpet growth spurt. Actually, I owe most of the sudden improvement to her because I wanted to beat her so I practiced and I did. If it weren’t for Cathy I wouldn’t be were I am today. She’s really is no threat to me now and I like her, but I will always keep one eye on her. It’s also important to the dirty part of my soul to be better than her so I never allow myself to think that she’s any good. But I will give her this: Cathy is a good to average sophomore trumpet player. Why Mary thinks that that could beat her, a good to average junior trumpet player, remains a mystery to me. Mary’s only problem is that she is a touch under-practiced and very unconfident. I know that if Mary gave herself some credit and stopped worrying about looking conceited I would have to start watching her! “As much as I like Mr. Beirbell, he’s not that intelligent about chair placements. But he’s honestly not that stupid!”
“I want to be good so much!”
“Don’t worry about it. You’re fine”
“But I’m not amazing! I know I’ll never be anything like you…”
“Please don’t. I’m not amazing. I’m just a student.”
“Not long. Soon you’ll be a famous professional trumpeter! I know it!”
I gave her a weak smile. Yes, I love hearing people say that because it makes me feel like maybe everything wasn’t stolen by Zach. But it really doesn’t mean as much to hear her say it as much as it would from Mr. Beirbell. As sweet as she is, she doesn’t understand how competitive music is. She doesn’t understand that America only needs so many of us and that it’s a dog eat dog world out there. Now, to hear that from someone like Mr. Beirbell who really understands that would be the best thing ever. However, he will never notice me because of Zach. He gave my parents a lecture on how wonderful it would be if I learned from him and how amazing Zach is during my parent-teacher conference. I don’t think he knows how badly that hurts someone who wants to become a professional more than anything else she’s ever wanted.
A car horn sounded and Mary was dumped into her mother’s car. This would be the last I would see of her until marching band. I told her I’m looking forward to it, but as I said it a knot formed in my stomach. I’m not sure if it was an excitement knot or a nervous knot. But marching band, like Zach, was a reality I’d have to face sooner or later.
Chapter 3: Little Girls and Big Boys
“Lucy, hurry you don’t want to be late!”
“I’m working on it Mom”
The day had come; the first day of marching camp. I cleaned out my trumpet the previous day although cleaning it just to dirty it again was a little pointless. I found my lire, bought sunscreen almost adequate enough for this, found the old marching charts and now all I had to do was fix myself.
My hair was crazy. I must not have combed it very well after my shower because my bangs were sticking up in all directions. The round glasses on my face weren’t helping either. I would completely pass as twelve if I weren’t so fat and so freakishly tall. My goal with band is to always look like serious competition; reminding Zach and Mr. Beirbell that I’m a little kid is not desired. However, being late would make a worse impression so I took a comb and dashed it with water. If water could make it crazy maybe it can flatten it also. My mom was pulling out of the driveway when I finally caught up with her and jumped in the car.
I think what a lot of people don’t realize about me is how I want to be pretty. People see me as the innocent girl that doesn’t really care about boys or anything. My parents do too and part of my brain wants me to be sweet and innocent. But I have this huge part that longs to be beautiful. I secretly want to be that beautiful girl that all the boys want but no one can touch. The one that makes the boys drool and then plays with them. Reel them in and then push them away without any second thoughts. But the reality is I don’t have that power. I’ve never had a boyfriend before and I don’t think that will change this year.
Maybe I can change my image this year. Maybe I can make people see me as a young women and not a freakishly tall two year old. Life would be so much better if people saw that I’m not the little girl I used to be. My trumpet teacher would give me real music, Mr. Beirbell would take me seriously, and maybe Zach would give me the time of day. But these are all just dreams that mean nothing until I work for them.
The car screeched to a stop and I half-heartily walked into the busy band room of people talking and playing their instruments. Everyone was rushing to the table to retrieve their marching charts and their nametags.
“Hey, you don’t need to get tangled in that swarm” a familiar voice says behind me.
“Lizzy!” I turned around and to face one of my closest friends.
“Yeah, I took the liberty of grabbing you a chart and your nametag. But I don’t see why you’d need it. Everyone knows who you are!” Liz smiled up at me with loving brown eyes. Liz is completely different from Megan. For one thing, she really doesn’t care or notice the guys at all. Liz keeps herself completely shut out of the real world by obsessing over school work and cramming her schedule with clubs. She is a big geek; a member of the Robotics Team, Science Olympiad, oceanography, the Mathletes and band. She doesn’t realize that by doing this she doesn’t make more friends, she loses them. She’s always running back and forth between these groups and her homework that no one gets to really meet her. I’ve been her only consistent friend for a while now. Liz is so nice and caring that being around her makes me feel guilty but no one else knows that because of her stressed out façade. But the conversation with Liz didn’t last long because we were interrupted by Mary. She ran up looking pale and flabbergasted.
“Lucy, you got to see this!”
“What, are you okay?”
“Oh yeah, but oh my gosh!”
“What?”
I found myself being pulled over to the leadership board. Mary was a fabulous conductor and she has auditioned for the role of assistant drum major. I knew she’d make it, but she as usual doubted herself. She pushed past her way through the crowd and placed me in front of the board. I quickly scanned for her name under assistant and I sure enough found it. I turned to congratulate her but she shook her head and pointed to the drum major list. I scrolled down the list until my eyes caught a name.
“John A. Sysleton” I breathed.
“Yeah”
We knew that he’d get it and yet we still stood in awe for a couple seconds.
“You do know what this means, Mary?”
“Shhhh! Not here!”
We relocated to band storage room. It’s a place that most people aren’t allowed in but because she’s a member of leadership and I’m Mr. Beirbell’s favorite sophomore, we have access.
“You will be spending a whole lot more time with him. He’ll ask you to perform petty tasks and you know just…”
“Lucy, I can’t do this.”
“What are you talking about? You’ll be great!”
“I’m gonna have to drop out”
“No Mary! This is exactly what you need!”
“Hm?”
“Time to get to know him. So he can meet the remarkable girl I know”
“But what if he doesn’t think so?”
“Then he’s an idiot. Just go out there and show him! I mean it’s his senior year, what could happen?”
“Ha! Right after you go show Zach!”
“I was planning to!”
“Well, then me too!”
We exchanged confident glances. But at the sound of a whistle, they fell. It was time for us to report to the band room. These promises were much easier said than done and marching band had officially started.

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Whats The Name Of A Chap Stick Like Muscle Stress Relief Stick – Its Use On The Temple And Other Pressure Poin

Posted by admin | Stress Relief | Sunday 8 November 2009 10:20 pm

whats the name of a chap stick like muscle stress relief stick – its use on the temple and other pressure points – thank you

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Is It Really Bad To Have A Feeling Of Heaviness In Your Chest, & Like You Can’t Get A Full Breath Of Air In?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Tuesday 27 October 2009 10:23 pm

This isn’t constant, but sometimes I feel like my chest is heavier than normal and also sometimes I feel like I can’t get in a full breath. I think it might be due to stress, but I’m not sure. About two weeks ago this happened in a restaurant with a large group of my husband’s family and I ended up going into a panic attack. Should I be concerned, or should I just start working on better stress management? I’m only 21, so I feel like this isn’t normal.

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Please Help! – Whats The Name For An Asian Menthol Chap Stick Like Stress Relief Stick?

Posted by admin | Stress Relief | Sunday 25 October 2009 10:36 pm

Whats the name for an asian menthol chap stick like stress relief stick – *** its not head on – i purchased it once in south beach miami in a health store and havent been able to locate this product nor the name – thank you – dee

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Why Is It That A Team Like The Yankees Who Have______?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Saturday 26 September 2009 10:39 pm

such class and quality also have also have a fan base that is so closeminded and obnoxious? i know it’s natural to like ourselves but they have to have a good look at their behavior and what they express. many of them need to venture off the east coast for awhile just to air out, stress get get to the best of us. the aynkees are an excellent team with excellent management, it not the team that the large volume of people dislike, it’s their fan base and all the attention paid to them by the media. that is what make you pull against them. i would hate to be them.

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Looking For A Career Change – I Would Like To Work Part Time Doing Something Challenging. Ideas?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Saturday 5 September 2009 10:14 am

I have three children at home. I left my career in management at a large corporation when my youngest was born. I really miss working, but don’t want to go back to the hours and stress of what I was doing for the sake of my family. I have a degree in Business and have completed some coursework on my MBA, but I have come across few opportunities in a professional environment that can be done part time. I am willing to go back to school and am fortunate to have the means to do so, but I know going in that I want to learn something I will enjoy and that I can do part time. Does anyone have any suggestions regarding careers that lend themselves well to part time work?

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I Feel Like Screaming At My Boss… Any Tips On How To Control Anger/stress?

Posted by admin | Stress Management | Tuesday 25 August 2009 4:17 am

My boss has been making life extremely difficult for many of the employees. 3 have quit in the past week, and I am on the verge of quitting but must find another job first. My boss has no formal training in business management, and is very difficult to communicate with. She will appear very happy one moment, and leave nasty notes the next. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can deal with my stress and anger? I feel as though I am about to explode, but do not want this to happen in the workplace.

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