i know its long but please help..
Okay, well my family used to be perfect but it just started getting bad a couple of years ago and it gets worse and worse. When my mom had her first child, she only lived to be 12 days old, and that really left a big hold in my moms life. So… she went to counceling, and that helped but shes still going to it, and its not really seeming to help anymore with our family issues. Then, She had me and she was really really really overprotective until around the age of 11 “im 14 now”, and we had a really close relationship. Then, she had my brother “who is 10 now” and hes always had problems with anger management, so i guess you could say it started going downhill there. Then she had my other brother “8 now” and hes always been the “sweet, perfect, angelic, sensitive” child. Last, she has my sister “4 now” she used to be really sweet but after all the screaming and emotional stress that has gone on, shes become really mean and hateful of everyone.
I dont know exactly where it all started. I guess it started with me and my mom/my brother and my mom getting fights which increasingly got worse “i think part of it might be becauser my mom has borderline personality disorder’ but anway at the same time my dad just started a new business, so hes not home as much, and hes trying to make money but my mom has this idea in her head that he just wants to be away from the family, thats not the case at all.
So it started getting worse and worse when it became physical. For example, my mom would hit my brother kinda lightly with a closed fist, he would hit her back, he would say he wanted to kill her in her sleep, my mom would say i hate you, and my brother would call my dad at work. My mom always ALWAYS twisted around the stories and i think in her head, she made herself believe that they were true, but after enough of these fighting scenarios with all of us, my dad started to believe the kids, which my mom HATES. My mom loves the two youngest siblings, and thinks there perfect, my little sister definately isnt, and since our relationship which was strongest grew apart, she even loves my 10 year old brother more and is always sticking up for him. Luckily, I have my dad who sticks up for me. so it is basically my mom and brother against me and my dad.
Well after all these calls of me crying to my dad, and me running away, because my mom would call me “worthless,slutty, not as good as anyone in the family” and she would say she wants to send me away, my dad started threatening divorce, which is not a good thing to bpd people. Ever since then my moms been trying so hard to not hit us, but my dad thinks shes trying to hard and being faky and hes still considering divorce as a possibility. So every time he mentions it my mom literally has a breakdown “cusses, hits people, cant breathe, runs around in circles, tries to find the keys to her car to drive away” all of that stuff.. and she is always saying how shes not gonna live without my dad which kind of puts him on the spot. My dad has so much financial stress, and family stress adn hes becoming depressed and sad, and hes never smiling anymore. The last few months have been hardest for me. Ive started cutting, I have very in depth suicidal thoughts, and i just sit in my room and listen to music, nothing in life seems fun aymore, i just want to sleep and never wake up.
My mom has her nice days too, she takes me shopping, out to lunch, and laughs but i cant forgive her for everthing shes done in the past. me and my dad try to tell her that but she just says how hateful, and grudge holding we are. I realy feel so bad, and yesterday morning she left and i dont konw where she is, and im relaly scared and worried, and she caled my dad last night but only asked to say goodnight to the other kids. She hates me so much, And i konw its because she thinks in her little twisted brain that im trying to break her and my dad up but im doing the opositte. Im going to a psychologist and i just got bloodtests for this…. http://www.theultramindsolution.com/laun… instead of having to take medication, im waiting to get my results back, but im so depressed, and lonely. adn i have to balance school on top of al lof this right now i have straight fs and im moving schools so ill have to get adjusted to that school and what should i do. im scard to call my mom and find out where she is………she could be anywhere from a friends house, to a psychiatric ward, to a hotel

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Hi everyone,
I’m 26 years old and I have recently changed my career from working as a freelance flautist to holistic therapy (stress management and life coaching). I want to make some new and refreshing changes in my life and (I know this sounds really, really silly) but I love aviation. My second cousin is a professional pilot and I would love to take flying lessons one day (after I’ve saved up!) I had thought about working as a flight attendant before I started my business but I realised I actually wanted to fly the plane instead! I am being supported by my partner until by business takes off and I am marketing and looking for refferals at the minute. It’s taking time but I know I will get there. I know I wouldn’t be able to fly professionally at this stage in my life but is it still worth looking into? Should I pursue something in this area? Thank you for your advice. K x

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Thank you.

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See stress treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 42. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods. Light to moderate daily exercise helps fight stress. For some people, it helps to visualise a quiet, relaxing scene (imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably; you luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever … ).
Options: Try: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/meditat… & http://www.healthjourneys.com/free_audio… & http://www.meditainment.com/free-meditat…
Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. The supplement DHEA is thought to counter the stress hormone, Cortisol. Ginseng & Lady’s Slipper are recommended herbal remedies: see section 55, at ezy build, below. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques in sections 11, 2, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 – 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Also see: http://www.mindtools.com/stress/Relaxati… & http://relaxationemporium.com/ & http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/m… & http://tinyurl.com/29so4u & at http://www.lessons4living.com/ try the audio demonstration. At www.amazon.com/ enter: “sounds of the ocean”, & “ambient rain sound”, & “mountain river sounds” in the searchbar.
Repeat: “I feel calm” and/or “I can handle this.” Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. “Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself”. A variant of EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety, is shown in section 42, on page i, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris I have found that the 2 – 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is well worthwhile. You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand.

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From the age of 11 I wanted to be an accountant. I trained as an articled clerk for 5 years, qualified with a regional prize for my final and, I think, became a pretty good accountant – even, apparently for my proffesion, I had a “wicked” sense of humour.
I entered the big world of industry, was so successful that I was offered and took a high management position but was no longer mostly an accountant. High pay, lower satisfaction – until I had a heart attack attack at 47 years of age and took early retirement. Excellent invalidity pay and now pension but some doubts.
Should I have stuck to my chosen career with more satisfaction, albeit at a lower level of pay, (and possibily avoided the stress/heart attack) or did as I did.
Your views would be appreciated.

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I am only in high school and i have ALOT of things on my plate.
*NJHS
*cheerleading
*cooking club
*drama
*spanish
*after school jobs (dog sitting)
*AP classes
…………………..just to name a few

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I feel like I need some help with some problems. I am 22 years old TRYING to survive in this awful economy. I work fulltime, I have credit card bills from paying for books and school stuff, I have insurance, cell phone, car payment you name it. I feel like I have the bills of a 30 year old with 3 or 4 kids. The problem is I don’t know how to cope with it, I don’t have great parents because of there addiction to gambling so i’ve taught myself how to manage money and the importance of keeping good credit since my parents obviously didn’t feel that was a smart thing to do considering they gambled themselves into bankruptcy. I am working fulltime clearing about 400 a week. I have put school on hold for right now because I have to do it all on my own. I have about 700 in bills monthly however that doesn’t include gas, food, etc. I don’t shop because I make sure my bills are always paid. Now i’m to the point to where I need to get an apartment because I can’t deal with my parents anymore. How can I find a better job to where I can afford that? I have so much experience, human resources, legal secretary, management, leasing, sales and collections, receptionist, secretary, i’ve done all that. I feel like i’m under paid now maybe that’s just Kentucky for you. I realize I should be happy to even have a job the way the economy is but my stress level is way too high. My boyfriend on the other hand is 26 was given a house to live in and his parents pay all the expenses so that he can finish school and he works part time making about 180, he only has to worry about a cell phone bill which to me thats not much of a bill. I used to live with him and it was so much easier then because he lives about 10 minutes from my job while my parents are 50 miles one way from my job. He doesn’t want to live together right now because we did move way to fast in the beginning wound up breaking up and now that were back together our relationship is awesome, but I do miss living there with him more then anything, I feel like he’s the only person I have he’s like my bestfriend and boyfriend all in one. I do stay with him 3-4 times during the week but those other days I spend with my parents and I just can’t handle it anymore. My mom will ask me for money for her gambling problem and gets mad when I won’t give her that. I am taking some left over anti dep. from my doctor from last year because I get stressed to the point that I just cry. I am very independent however i’d give anything to of been able to have everything paid for and just given to me like my boyfriend. I can’t afford an apartment right now unless I find a better paying job. Any help??

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It’s just a series of situations and events. You can choose which ones affect “you” (the inner you) and which ones can be responded automatically.
For instance, if someone is yelling at you, you can choose whether or not to take it to heart. Maybe just wait for them to finish, thank them for their input, and walk away and get on with your life.
The main difference between leading a stressful and stress-free life is whether or not you “attach” yourself to everything that happens to you. If you let every event shake your core being, you’ll always be jittery and stressed. If you can find safety and comfort in yourself, and maintain that throughout a variety of situations, you’ll find yourself much more content.

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Ok, here’s what you do.
You go to the cupboard and grab a jar of peanut butter. Call the dog into the room. Open the jar of peanut butter and spread it all over….
A piece of bread. Cut it in half and share with the dog. You will feel good about sharing and your stress level should decrease.
Love you!

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Well I have Chronic Stress. Possibly due to family problems, school, and my schedule. It is really doing a number on me with upset stomachs, anxiety, and anger to the point that people have been telling to seek help with anger management. It has also done major damage to my face with acne and wrinkles. I have been stressed out for awhile now and it has gotten to the point that I’ve realized that I’m sick of my acne and I want it to go away! because it will only go if my stress go away with it. I’m here aking for tips and ways to eliminate stress once and for all to make my face how it once was. Is there a certain food I should eat or brand of drink I should drink? What can I do? Please help me I’m desperate!

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