He is trying to make me look unfit because I left him for another man. He says that I can’t have any custody if I marry this other man. He changed the locks on the doors when I tried to take my daughter with me at the time of our breakup. As long as I am not with another man, I can see my daughter. Is this a control tactic? He says he will dub me unfit if I push him for custody or for visitation while the boyfriend is around. He says he will bring up my depression medicine, Zoloft. I went to an outpatient hospital for 3 months for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder 2 yrs. ago. He took me there after I asked for help. I had started drinking secretly and crying alot and taking sleeping pills at night. But I got help and straightened up…..this was 2 yrs. out of our 23 yr. marriage. So am I unfit in a judges eyes? And he is not perfect, he had to go to anger management therapy–compliments of his job/boss. He also found a viagra bottle in my purse and kept it.

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So my question is can I receive unemployment being that I quit for good cause? Should I quit my present job at the restraunt due to mental discrimination and reduced hours? Can I take a lawsuit against either employer? Please read what has happened it is very lengthy.
I started working at a restaurant in January 2009 part time as a host which I still am employed at. I was working on average 15-25 hours per week until the end of March 2009. In March 2009 I also picked up a second job part time as a cashier at a grocery store. After I got my other job they cut my hours back to only 2 days a week up to 8 hours for the week and only will schedule me on weekends. Both my current and past employer know that I have mental disabilities from a brain injury from birth frontal lobe damage which is the most advanced part of the brain. At first it was great working at my current job but after a few months I noticed my work environment became very hostile due to management and a few co-workers. A woman who is still employed their grabbed me around the waist and physically picked me up and moved me out of the way because I did not move out of her way fast enough. The same woman recently grabbed me by the shoulder pointed her finger at me and told me I should never interrupt her when she is talking and it is rude, she did this very loud in front of a table of customers. I was just relaying a message to her from another hostess. There are also safety issues in the work place including servers leaving there tray jacks sticking outward so customers and other employees can trip over. I had one guest almost get hurt and I myself got jabbed by one. I told the managers and upper management and nothing has been done. Every once in awhile I can’t make it in or am running a little late they tell me forget it don’t bother coming in we don’t need you. I had an instance where a co worker had to have a day off and could not find anyone to take her shift so I volunteered. Everything was great until she had to confirm it with my manager. My manager said they don’t need me to work for the co-worker because they don’t need someone for that day. But anyone that’s needs to work a double or pick up a shift is asked except me. One of the managers told me to say something about a server picking up a switched table or something in a fast tone of voice and I didn’t understand. I asked her nicely if she could repeat what she said and she turned her head the other way and ignored me. I then walked away after standing there for a minute waiting for a response. I recently went back into the office with my manager to see if I could get more hours and they said no because I am slow, am not independent and I can’t always think very fast. I think they have been trying to get me to quit and it seems like they are mentally discriminating against me as well! My other job I just recently quit. They too tried to force me to quit by making my work environment hostile and personally attacking me, not scheduling me for a couple weeks and it also made my health very bad and caused a lot of stress. These last few months I have had to see doctors and I due to physical health problems. When I started at my other job I really put a lot of time and effort in and helped a lot of my co workers out that need time off by taking shifts for them. There was an instance where I was on my way to work at the first job and I got stung by something on the way there riding a motorized scooter. My arm started to swell up really bad and I was getting dizzy. I tried working at my first job for a bit but the pain was too much to take. I was sent home on my way home I stopped at the other job that was supposed to work and showed upper management my arm, by then it was turning red and hiving up I was in tears from the pain. She then said ok go home get some rest we will cover your shift. The next day I came in and I was written up for missing the day before! There was a personal attack on me from my second job by one of my mangers and co worker because I was not able to take a shift for someone. From then on the co worker treated me very poorly and added to the hostile environment by going off at me in front of customers. One customer cared enough to get the co worker’s name. A few weeks later I got pulled in the office and was told money was missing out of my drawer and I would be put on audit. The same worker works cash office that has a personal grudge against me. I talked to upper manager and asked if she or anyone could have taken the money. I was told no. One of my managers told that co worker what we had discussed and the co worker again lashed out at me verbally. For the time I worked at my second job I was always on time for work and breaks. Except for a couple instances where I had to take public transportation. I was written up for being 2 minutes late. I was also then pulled in the office because I supposaly was late on a break by one minute another write up which is not

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sleeping, listening to calming music(like chinese relaxing stuff)

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So, I have a friend who has a “throwing” tendency when she gets upset – i.e. throws cell phone, throws shoes, throws paper clips, miscellaneous objects…you get the idea. I need some help coming up with a stress relief exercise of sorts (such as a punching bag, treadmill, shooting clay pigeons, doing 100,000 sit-ups) that would make use of her throwing tendencies in a safe and non damaging way to relieve stress. Throwing plates at the wall, for example, is not an option. Any ideas?
Thanks in advance.

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10. “They told me at the blood bank this might happen.”
9. “This is just a 15 minute power-nap like they raved about in that time management course you sent me to.”
8. “Whew! Guess I left the top off the white-out. You probably got here just in time!”
7. “I wasn’t sleeping! I was meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new paradigm.”
6. “I was testing my keyboard for drool resistance.”
5. “I was doing a highly specific Yoga exercise to relieve work-related stress. Are you discriminatory toward people who practice Yoga?”
4. “Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out a solution to our biggest problem.”
3. “The coffee machine is broken…”
2. “Someone must’ve put decaf in the wrong pot…”
And the #1 excuse to say if you get caught sleeping at your desk.
1. ” …… AMEN!”

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Due to over 2 years of mistreatment and bullying by management I have resigned due to work related stress/ constructive dismissal. The company have failed to act on my grievance in an appropriate manner. I have received 1 hour of advice funded by community legal services. They have advised of the direction to take but as this may now lead to a civil case it could take some time and I feel unprepared for lengthly litigation. I live in cornwall but would happily use a national company if required. Any ideas would be much appreciated.

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besides yoga…I’m not really so flexible…

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I need some stress relief. What do ya’ have for me?

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i have a stressful life at home because its really crowded. what do i do?

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When im angry all i want to do is smash up something, or hurt someone. Is boxing a good way to use that energy

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