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Verbal Abuse Boyfriend Anger Problem I Love Him Help Me

admin — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 23:13:21 +0000

Me and my bf have been dating for a year now. everything was going amazing, I treated him like a prince, he treated me like a princess, than once we moved in together it all changed. he just seemed to let his guard down and get angry over things that seemed ridiculous. like at first i thought he was joking. just thinks like traffic, or him not finding clean pair of socks would make him go to the extreme instead of getting a little angry, he would be OUTRAGED. cussing, yelling, saying he hates his life. because he doesn’t have clean socks or something!
we talked about it, i can handle that and help him deal with his stress better but than it started to be that it was my fault if something bad happened to him in his eyes. if he couldn’t find his keys he would yell at me if i didn’t help him find them, or if i tried to comfort him when he was mad at traffic he would call me a stupid *****, than if i get upset he says im trying to make him feel bad.
He also gets extremely jealous. If he was at work and he comes home and i smile he will make a comment like, why are you smiling? is it cause you had your other boyfriend over? (ive never cheated on him or given him any reason for him to believe i was)
He makes these cheating comments at LEAST once a day.
than when we are sleeping he makes me lay in the third of the bed, and if he doesnt get to spred his legs out he will cuss at me. or if his back hurts, he will ask me to rub it wich isnt a bad thing at all, but this one day i had carple tunnel and i couldnt and he got so extreamly mad and said i never do anything for him and threw a fit. and continued to beg me while i was trying to sleep so i finnaly did and than he complained it wasnt good enough. i feel emotionally worn out.
we have so many good times and we love each other soo much, recently i told him I cant take it and he needs to stop. he apologized like he always does but sometimes it only takes half a day to a day for him to have an outrage over something like me being a minute late to pick him up. hes done better this time because i went more into detail about how I feel but it seems like if i don’t baby him he reacts in a pouty kinna way for me to pity him. like giving me sad eyes or asking whats wrong, when im just acting normal, not happy or sad i feel like i have to put on this overly cheery front for him.
whats the best way to stop this behaver! we don’t have the money to have him go to anger management which he said he would agree to do till we found out we couldn’t afford it. he said he hates the way he acts and really wants to change, what can i do???

Why Can’t I Control My Anger?

admin — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 17:18:01 +0000

I’ve been to anger management classes and tried stress reducing but not one goddaMn@@ thing works!
I always feel so fu@@ing angry all the time ……..full of rage and I don’t know why…..Nor does my doctor or counselors!!!!!
!@#$ $%^ &*…………… It’s been this way since I was 13 and now I’m 33!!!! 20 years of total blood pressure vein popping ANGER………….I guess the only thing that is gonna stop my rage is a fatal heart attack

Anger Management…please Help Me.?

admin — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 05:23:22 +0000

I am very blessed to have an amazing boyfriend, that most girls would die for. Though we live 300 miles apart, we are very close, and love each other unconditionally. We’re 17&18, and been together about a year and four months.
We have a tendency to fight a lot. I’ve come to realize it’s mostly my fault. I have a lot of things going on in my life right now, and it keeps me stressed and frustrated. I have tendencies to go off on him (my bf). Then I feel really bad about it, knowing that I have once again caused a fight.
Does anyone have any tips that will help me keep my cool, and not take things out on him?
Yes, in case you’re wondering, I have other friends too, it’s just I’m closest to my bf and he’s usually whom I talk to when I’m upset.

Anger Management (it’s A Bit Of A Long Story, But Please Read It!)?

admin — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 00:04:46 +0000

Basically I have a temper, and it can get way out of control. I’ve never hurt anybody in a lasting way, but I kick and hit and scream and cry when I lose control. I’m 16 now, and my parents don’t believe it’s safe for me to drive because of my temper.
To explain a little bit more:
My temper is genetic. It honestly is, I’m Irish and my dad has a temper like me, and my grandmother does too, though they have obviously learned how to control it. It’s definitely not a learned thing because my dad rarely loses his temper (and when he does, he does *not* hit and kick, he just yells a lot. And by rarely I mean he loses it maybe twice a year.)
I find that I can go for months without losing my temper at anyone, but if I get stressed or sick or overwhelmed and then someone (usually one of my siblings) does something big to annoy me, or if the result is that it annoys me I will lose my temper, and then for a few months after that it’s out of control and I’ll lose it at really little things (the worst so far has been when my sister took the remote away from me and I lost it at her). Eventually the cycle will slow down, I’ll keep my temper in check for months again, and then it starts all over.
I know that seeing a counsellor would help, or going to a group thing but I’m dead set against both of those. I’d really like some sort of strategy to keep things from annoying me, when they do annoy me to not lose my temper, and when I lose my temper to get control of it quickly.
Right now, I’ve tried walking away. I write in a journal. I’ve tried going for a run, I’ve tried closing my eyes and ignoring whatever is bugging me. I’d like to try listening to music but the situation doesn’t always allow it and I don’t always have my iPod with me. Counting to 10 doesn’t work either because normally by the time I realise that I’m completely overreacting and it’s not a big deal, I’m already overreacting! I just don’t know what to do, and I could really use some help. Please, has anyone dealt with this before or helped someone get through it?
Thanks,
Meg

Bf Has Anger Management Issues..?

admin — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 05:22:48 +0000

My boyfriend of about 8 months and I live together. Don’t spend too much time together meaning, we arent around eachother all the time out of work, our schedules are different, so we get space apart, but we do see eachother everyday even if for a little bit. Basically, here is my thing:
I treat him really good, i concern myself with his feelings and in all honesty, most guys would kill to have a gf as chill as I am, while still being affectionate and caring.
It seems that he stresses on EVERYTHING. He can be perfectly happy, and the smallest things piss him off. They have nothing to do with me, but it is depressing always being around such negativity.
He spent a little over 3 and a 1/2 years in prison, and got realeased a little over a year ago. He is really a good guy. Hes just is so bitter about life and stuff. I just wanted to know if anyone out there has some productive advise. I want to be with him, but I don’t want to sacrifice my own happiness forever.

Teen Anger Management?(16)?

admin — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:45:28 +0000

I am 16, I am not exactly stressed all the time or anything.
I just simply have issues with my brother everything he does gets me irritated, and he knows it, so he does what ever it is so i get angry and tell him to stop, and now he just found out that talking in a superior manner with a low tone of voice to me like I was inferior to him makes me cry because I feel aweful , So he irritates me and then basically makes me cry constantly , I just get more irriated and instead of crying I scream. I talked to my mom but she doesnt seem to understand that I cant control myself from getting irritaded at little things, and not loosing my temper when ever my brother treats me like that.

I Have Severe Anger Management Problems…can You Help Me, I Dont Know What To Do?

admin — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:17:34 +0000

I posted this in Psychology last night and nobody responded.
I’m losing friends because of my Anger and people provoke me but dont realize it.
I bite my hand constantly
I swear the worst possible words publiclly (especially c-u-n-t)
I sometimes threaten people
I hit myself in the head
I scream
I often get very angry driving
Teachers have tried to get me to stop with everything but it never works. My friends say they cant take me seriously, and I say “Everyone gets angry. I get a little angrier than others but w/e I dont give a f-u-c-k.” But I know thats not true. I know its a real problem.
I think a lot of it traces back to a few things:
*Stress
*The Yankees
*People trying to get me angry
*Intensity
What can I do? Do you think my problems are bad?

Dad With Serious Anger Management Issues?

admin — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 11:14:09 +0000

me and my dad had three huge fights just this week, and yesterday he slapped me in the face. he gets pissed at me for no reason, most likely just taking all the stress from work out on me.
but it’s not the first time he’s hit me.
what should i do? already spoke to my mom, but i doubt he’ll stop arguing with me. he says i’m arrogant because i get good grades [he mistakes sarcasm for arogantnessity though. lawl], that i do nothing, that i answer back, etc O.o
no way am i going to a councilor though. i was made to go once, and he was a total retard. i started crying because he kept asking all these questions, and then he asked me if i wanted tissues. i said no. then he was like ‘i thought you could use the time alone to… collect your thoughts’ – LMFAO! i think he thinks i’m insane, cause i was crying & laughing, while beet red in the face, and then i started coughing the same time. lol.
but what should i do with my dad? i don’t know how much more of his crap i can take.

How To Self Anger Management? Please?

admin — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:24:52 +0000

How do I not get so angry as easily as I do now?
Sometimes if someone I know does something that either I dont like or something else I think is bad, but its nothing THAT bad, I get angry and wont speak to them for days over something stupid like disagreeing, or not responding fast enough or not telling me something or something like that.
I don’t talk to them for days because I dont want to curse at them because I get really hot really easily sometimes.
I when I calm down tell usually tell them I’m sorry and everything is fine sort of.
I’ve accidentally cursed a few close people I know out over some really stupid things and hurt them emotionally.
I have depression, I feel bad/down a lot, but years ago, I never got as angry as I do now, back then, I would just cry or something, now I get hot and steamed and want to hurt people.
How do I vent anger without profanity or anything like that.
How do I get rid of stress?
I have tried to not do stuff, like when someone does something wrong, I still speak to them and don’t curse them even though I want to, but I still feel steamed.

Parents: Do You Think I Need Anger Management Or Therapy?

admin — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:28:25 +0000

My father seems to think so. I do have a paper-thin temper, but I can keep it in check until I get home or to rehearsal (to rant, dance, or listen to Foamy the Squirrel (a great stress reliever)). Today I just lost it at my father because he was asking a question over and over when I told him, like, three times.
But I really did have a semi-bad day: I fell off the stage and twisted my ankle, I got into a fight with my frenemy, I had to repeat a simple direction five times to a kid in my Russian Literature class who wouldn’t stop asking me, “What are we supposed to do?” over and over again.
I know! It’s a part of life, but I got zero sleep last night. I’m going to snap and I tried to explain this to my father, but he wouldn’t budge. He says he’s going to put me into therapy if I don’t “knock it off.”
Would you do this? Do I honestly have “anger issues?”
(I apologize for the bratty rant.)