i know i lvoe my husband but there are som many things that stress me out about him. he has a injury that prevents him from owrking or doing basically anything. its so hard for me to have to pay aal the bills and im only 25. so i dont have a lot of money to begin with . he says i haven tbeen nice to him lately i think its bc i dont know how to keep up with all the bills. im in a debt management progrma right now but it is so hard i want to get a house soon but now i cant bc my credit is so bad and i dont know when he will ever go back to work. he is good to me for the most part but i dont know if iam just enabling him would he be better off without me?
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tell him to apply for disability benefits or something but u shouldnt leave him bc he is having a rough time. he is good to u that s what u do. thick n thin,no one says its easy
In marriage, like anything else, you have to be able to take the good with the bad. When you took your marriage vows you both vowed to stick by one another for better of for worse and in sickness and in health. That was true love is all about. Right now you guys are going through some tough times. Consider this your test. For it is times like these that will show you what your marriage is really made of. If you truly love one another love will get you through it. Peace and God bless.
It’s not his fault for being hurt. Give him a break!
“FOR BETTER< OR FOR WORSE” is what you swore.
What if the tables were turned? Would HE be on Here?
This is your HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You keep asking the same question here – if you are that unhappy then leave, stop asking us everyday for permission!
everybody is right. “for better or for worse, richer/poorer, sickness and in health”. I think if you really don’t love him then maybe, but if the only wrong that he has done is to get injured, then no, that really isn’t a good reason. If my husband were injured enough that he couldn’t work, honey I’d kick it up a notch and get two/three jobs. You need to consider if your just “looking” for excuses to get out, or do you need to “really” get out. But before you do, you do need to see about getting him some disability assistance first. But even if you stay you should look into that.
Do you remember why you married him in the first place? Can’t he get some kind of financial assistance? He should be able to. Why do you say you might be enabling him? You already said his injury prevents him from working. I don’t know what to say without knowing more details. You know, someone else might want him – injury and all.
Add more detail. What is this injury? Is it a sore finger or is he missing two legs. It makes a difference. We need to know to help.
I’m a divorce attorney and I can tell you that from experience, a majority of my clients get a divorce for money reasons. It’s an extremely stressful thing that can put a real and definite strain on your marriage and we have a tendency to blame our spouses for it.
First off, do you have children? If you do, it’s in your best interest to try to make it work. The stress a divorce puts on them is not worth it. Plus the cost of a divorce including child custody is just out of control.
Second, you might need to have an open and honest heart to heart with him. I know that’s hard to do, but the number one key to a good relationship is open communication. How a couple responds in time of crisis is a good indication of how they will work out. That being said, try talking to him, let him know you odn’t want to fight but you just need to figure things out with him. Depending on his response, you might have a better idea if your marriage has a chance.
Good luck!
Yes.. Why let a problem like that make u wanna go away from him.. He needs u the most right now. You should stay..
If you made those “for better, for worse” vows….this sounds like “worse”…tough it out!
No, he needs you. He needs you to make him realize if he cannot use his muscles then to use his head. He can become a real estate agent or a car insurance salesman in an office.A cpa perhaps? There’s many things he still CAN do! And earn good bx at it!The depression would be bad for him not being able to work and his wife deserting him. The key to being happy is NOT a house. Believe it or not, it is learning to live WITHIN your means and be gratefull for what you DO have and not for what you do not have.
he should be getting diability. check into that if you haven’t,. good luck i know it is hard.
You did’nt say when the injury happened, if after you married it was for better or what. Then you need to try to get help from whatever source you can. If before you were married, look at as a mistake and seperate or do what makes you happy.
it depends on how much your love him and what kind of person he is. he cant help his injury though he couldnt find a job writing or something over the internet?
OMG!!! YOU make me sick!! He is INJURED! It is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to take care of the situation!!!!!!! That is what a spouse (not to mention a decent human being) does! You took VOWS! This is a MARRIAGE!!!!! What are you, 14? Grow up!
If he treated you the way you are treating him you would be on here bitching about him being an uncaring bastard and saying you wanted to leave him for that!
I feel sorry for your husband. I am sure that he thought he was marrying a woman that he could count on, not a child that runs away.
do what is best for him and just leave him if u dont have the same feelings for him…dont play with them
Tell him…”Oh Baby….your love gives me such a thrill…
But your love don’t pay the bills..
I need some money…yeah yeah I need some money.”
Sing to the tune of the actual song it is.
He either needs to work or get on disability, so YOU can function happily.