http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/ Stress Management for a Stress Free Life Fri, 15 Apr 2011 05:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3675 Jessica C Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3675 get a really good lawyer! get a really good lawyer!

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3676 stacilyn Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3676 First, you need to get a lawyer and file for divorce ASAP. Your attorney should file Temporary Orders for Custody (this will get your daughter back) The Court will most likely appoint a Guardian ad Litem to represent the best interests of your daughter. This is not going to be easy, he is going to be an @ss to you because he's hurt and angry. The GAL will determine based on the facts and personal observances who the child should remain with. He can not legally keep you from her just because you have a boyfriend (unless the boyfriend has "questionable" past with the Court) Good luck and hang in there. Start keeping your own journal of things that happen just to cover things on your end. First, you need to get a lawyer and file for divorce ASAP. Your attorney should file Temporary Orders for Custody (this will get your daughter back) The Court will most likely appoint a Guardian ad Litem to represent the best interests of your daughter. This is not going to be easy, he is going to be an @ss to you because he’s hurt and angry. The GAL will determine based on the facts and personal observances who the child should remain with. He can not legally keep you from her just because you have a boyfriend (unless the boyfriend has “questionable” past with the Court) Good luck and hang in there. Start keeping your own journal of things that happen just to cover things on your end.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3677 TroubleR Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3677 It really depends on his lawyers. I know some good lawyers that could make anyone look bad. You have to present yourself as a good mother and prove that to the judge and jurors. Explain how you did lose control of your sense and became depressed, we are human and he does happen to everyone. The fact is that you seeked helped and you are on medication therefore these breakdowns will not happen again. You saw there was a problem and you were able to solve it. I think your husband is very upset and the fact that you left him for another man made him extremely unhappy that now he is trying to make your life miserable by taking away your child, espeically if it is a daughter. We know that this girl will need a woman role model and unless your ex husband has another female by his side he will unable to take control of her during her teenage years. I am sure the judge has seen plenty of cases like these. You just have to remain strong and prove yourself. I feel like you can win this against your husbands jealousy! It really depends on his lawyers. I know some good lawyers that could make anyone look bad. You have to present yourself as a good mother and prove that to the judge and jurors. Explain how you did lose control of your sense and became depressed, we are human and he does happen to everyone. The fact is that you seeked helped and you are on medication therefore these breakdowns will not happen again. You saw there was a problem and you were able to solve it.
I think your husband is very upset and the fact that you left him for another man made him extremely unhappy that now he is trying to make your life miserable by taking away your child, espeically if it is a daughter. We know that this girl will need a woman role model and unless your ex husband has another female by his side he will unable to take control of her during her teenage years.
I am sure the judge has seen plenty of cases like these. You just have to remain strong and prove yourself. I feel like you can win this against your husbands jealousy!

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3669 whisperc Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3669 Sounds like BOTH you and your ex could benefit from some family counseling. Your 12 year old should be old enough to voice her opinion also, and it should be respected. As far as court goes, get yourself a good family law attorney, and good luck. Sounds like BOTH you and your ex could benefit from some family counseling. Your 12 year old should be old enough to voice her opinion also, and it should be respected. As far as court goes, get yourself a good family law attorney, and good luck.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3670 cookie Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3670 Wow, you really have alot of problems going on. First of all, you need to stop listening to your ex. You left him for a reason, remember that. Second, only the court can prove a mom unfit. You need to write down what he does and says that is negative. Record it if you can. You contradicted yourself, first you said daughter was reaching puberty, then you stated that your kids were grown. I'm not sure what the truth is. I do know that if you are on medication to help your nerves, that will not look good to the judge. You need to decide if you really want your children and focus on them. Do not go into court and argue with your ex. Remember the judge is going to choose who is best for the children. Stop fighting with your ex. You are giving him satisfaction and the amunition he needs to prove you unfit. Good luck and GOD bless. Wow, you really have alot of problems going on. First of all, you need to stop listening to your ex. You left him for a reason, remember that. Second, only the court can prove a mom unfit. You need to write down what he does and says that is negative. Record it if you can. You contradicted yourself, first you said daughter was reaching puberty, then you stated that your kids were grown. I’m not sure what the truth is. I do know that if you are on medication to help your nerves, that will not look good to the judge. You need to decide if you really want your children and focus on them. Do not go into court and argue with your ex. Remember the judge is going to choose who is best for the children. Stop fighting with your ex. You are giving him satisfaction and the amunition he needs to prove you unfit. Good luck and GOD bless.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3671 maslyn_j Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3671 You need to get a lawyers opinion. To me it sounds like he is just playing you to either get you back or make your life a living hell. Good luck and chin up! It will get better! You need to get a lawyers opinion. To me it sounds like he is just playing you to either get you back or make your life a living hell. Good luck and chin up! It will get better!

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3672 Republic Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3672 Okay, this is what I suggest. Everything you've written here, get a copy of, and when you go to court? Give that to the judge and ask him to read it. If this is the honest to God truth, and the judge is honest with him/herself? your ex-husband to be will not win this case. Your circumstances do not make you an unfit Mother, any more than his knowledge of those circumstances, makes him a "good" father. Go for it, as being totally honest is probably what will help you here. It's when people B.S. that things get complicated. And hard as it may be, try to go into court with a positive attitude. If your ex bothers you, don't let "him" know that, because "that" is how he "wants" to effect you. Good luck & God bless. Okay, this is what I suggest. Everything you’ve written here, get a copy of, and when you go to court? Give that
to the judge and ask him to read it. If this is the honest to God truth, and the judge is honest with him/herself? your ex-husband to be will not win this case. Your circumstances do not make you an unfit Mother, any more than his knowledge of those circumstances, makes him a “good” father. Go for it, as being totally honest is probably what will help you here. It’s when people B.S. that things get complicated. And hard as it may be, try to go into court with a positive attitude. If your ex bothers you, don’t let “him” know that, because “that” is how he “wants” to effect you. Good luck & God bless.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3673 kitcat Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3673 You allow this man to have too much control over your life. He is emotionally blackmailing you because you left him. Men leave their wives for other women and never have to go through the things you did. I believe a judge will be understanding every one now days go through some type of depression even judges. You should have never let changing locks on the door stop you from getting your daughter. You should have just picked up the child at school and went from there. If you are not physically or mentally harmful to the child his case should be very weak. Yes, he is trying to control you with telling what you can and can not do. Get yourself a lawyer. Now you do know that since he left the state with your daughter that you can file kidnapping charges against him especially if you you did not have a prior custody court order. Get yourself a lawyer and find out your rights. Do your research on the Internet. So that when you go to see a lawyer you will know some things and be able to ask questions. You allow this man to have too much control over your life. He is emotionally blackmailing you because you left him. Men leave their wives for other women and never have to go through the things you did. I believe a judge will be understanding every one now days go through some type of depression even judges. You should have never let changing locks on the door stop you from getting your daughter. You should have just picked up the child at school and went from there. If you are not physically or mentally harmful to the child his case should be very weak. Yes, he is trying to control you with telling what you can and can not do. Get yourself a lawyer. Now you do know that since he left the state with your daughter that you can file kidnapping charges against him especially if you you did not have a prior custody court order. Get yourself a lawyer and find out your rights. Do your research on the Internet. So that when you go to see a lawyer you will know some things and be able to ask questions.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3674 Flagger Guy Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3674 He is 100% within his rights to keep his children away from a mother who is a liar and a cheat regardless of your opinion of yourself. Were you my wife and pulled the stuff you did you would be experiencing the exact same treatment. I would also have procured the best divorce lawyer in town and would drag every sordid aspect of your personality into open court. It would all be there, clinical depression, dependence on drugs, lack of employment, cheating, Viagra, abandonment. I would claim anger management training as an employment imposed health care method which was required for dealing with a life influenced by a person like you. None of the reasons for your straying will hold up in court. To use them might make you seem less culpable to family but will make you look foolish in front of a judge. Quit making excuses for your plight. Presumably you care more about your children than you do your boyfriend. At this point you look pretty dirty here. The best you can do at this point is set the boyfriend aside, concentrate on work, get a good lawyer and work on your divorce. Get rid of this other guy until the divorce if FINAL. You need to clean up and establish a life of your own where you are not dependent on the opinion of men. Its time to clean up your act and do this the right way from here on or you will suffer long term. To the people who do not care for this answer, Oh well. This is how this will go if some change in attitude is not exhibited soon. This is a sad case and I would never reccommend that any kids not have access to their parent. But having this guy hanging around is the number one reason she's in trouble. Its time to put him aside for a while and take care of business. He is 100% within his rights to keep his children away from a mother who is a liar and a cheat regardless of your opinion of yourself. Were you my wife and pulled the stuff you did you would be experiencing the exact same treatment. I would also have procured the best divorce lawyer in town and would drag every sordid aspect of your personality into open court. It would all be there, clinical depression, dependence on drugs, lack of employment, cheating, Viagra, abandonment. I would claim anger management training as an employment imposed health care
method which was required for dealing with a life influenced by a person like you. None of the reasons for your straying will hold up in court. To use them might make you seem less culpable to family but will make you look foolish in front of a judge. Quit making excuses for your plight.
Presumably you care more about your children than you do your boyfriend. At this point you look pretty dirty here. The best you can do at this point is set the boyfriend aside, concentrate on work, get a good lawyer and work on your divorce. Get rid of this other guy until the divorce if FINAL. You need to clean up and establish a life of your own where you are not dependent on the opinion of men. Its time to clean up your act and do this the right way from here on or you will suffer long term.
To the people who do not care for this answer, Oh well. This is how this will go if some change in attitude is not exhibited soon. This is a sad case and I would never reccommend that any kids not have access to their parent. But having this guy hanging around is the number one reason she’s in trouble. Its time to put him aside for a while and take care of business.

]]> http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/comment-page-1/#comment-3662 Dr. Kat Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:33:36 +0000 http://mystressrelief.net/my-ex-took-my-12-yr-old-to-another-state-i-had-to-quit-my-job-and-move-also-will-this-look-good-in-court/#comment-3662 Ok, your husband is clearly down to play some serious hardball. You're going to need the biggest, toughest, craziest lawyer out there to get you out of this. Truth, he has a lot of ammo on you and may actually believe you to be unfit. Mostly it does sound like he's jealous. Maybe while getting a laywer you can try to reason with him that none of this is good for your daughter and he's risking hurting her emotionally with all the trauma and stress from his decisions. You must act now as adults and take in her best interest. PS. Shame on you for breaking up a marriage for your own needs and wants. Ok, your husband is clearly down to play some serious hardball. You’re going to need the biggest, toughest, craziest lawyer out there to get you out of this. Truth, he has a lot of ammo on you and may actually believe you to be unfit. Mostly it does sound like he’s jealous. Maybe while getting a laywer you can try to reason with him that none of this is good for your daughter and he’s risking hurting her emotionally with all the trauma and stress from his decisions. You must act now as adults and take in her best interest.
PS. Shame on you for breaking up a marriage for your own needs and wants.

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