My husband and I have been married almost 4yrs this june, and Im almost 35 weeks pregnant with our 2nd (his 1st child) but lately HE IS JUST GOING BANNANAS OVER STUPID STUFF. I know hes stressed out by work but coming home and taking it out on me isnt right either. He has never hit me-nor do i think he ever would, but sometimes his temper tantrums scare me. Like this morning-he broke our blender pitcher and made a huge mess by throwing it into the sink full of stuff then yelled-clean up the house! then he left. well, this afternoon-he came home for lunch and tried apologizing, but Im not over it yet… then he said something stupid to the effect id be happier if he were dead. I told him it wasnt true but he then left out the door. I am already dialated 3cm and my dr thinks i could go into preterm labor because Im already thinning out but I dont think the stress is good for me or the baby. Should I contact his command(he a marine) and tell them the situation? maybe they will order him some anger management classes or something or do u think I should just leave for a while and let him think about what hes doing to me and our family? I just feel like im gonna have a breakdown if something isnt done soon.
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I would not recommend contacting his commander unless you gets worse, but it may be good for you to go to a friends house for the night, maybe a few days, and take a break.
Both of you are having huge changes in your body, and going through mental changes because of how close the baby is, it is a natural change to get stressed, he is not handling it well is all.
No he isn’t. He isn’t stressing you out, you are stressing yourself out, by allowing his behavior to upset you. And you have to choose this.
Do not contact his command. Go home to your mom’s until the child is born, if you must (or if she can, have her come there). Don’t get the military involved in your home life. That is no different than calling his boss and who would do this?
You are hormonal and choosing to hold onto his immature behavior. Both of you need some work for this situation to improve.
He’s way beyond temper tantrums. His behavior is emotional abuse. The apologizing is just part of the cycle of abuse.
If you can’t go to your mom’s, you can go to a Women’s Shelter.
800.799.SAFE Domestic Violence Hotline
i think you need to talk to him, recomend him to take anger managment and leave him for a while that way he will miss you and the baby for sure. good luck and dont let him yell at you , you have a baby comming up good luck
I like the idea of you leaving for awhile. That should get his attention, and depending on what his response is, that will help you decide if he is going to change his ways and temper.
He needs to know how much his tantrums upset you
He needs anger management, and dont think it wont eventually turn to you because it will, you and the kids.
Do not contact his command as of yet. Try to talk with him. Have choices ready. He may want to seek help on his own. If he was able to come home and apologize he knows his actions aren’t right.
Go home to your parents for awhile
You are both under lots of stress,still he has no excuses to take it out on you.First you must concentrate on your imminent labor,be ready for the arrival of a new baby,everything else can wait til after the birth.
Does your husban has a friend who can talk to him? or a counsellor in the marine? He may have some issues to deal with,I am guessing but having a new baby can also be a huge thing for fathers.Try to rest and keep calm. Show him you love him no matter what,leaving him now will not help unless you feel you are in danger,if not show a bit of trust and he may just appreciate it.Good luck