I seem to be very bad at managing stress in my life both in the workplace and with people and situations that get on my nerves. I have a heavy profession and have sometimes left jobs due to burn-out or at times take things too sensitively. Now I’m finally (in my mid 40s ) doing something about it by starting stress management classes. These are one to one and will hopefully turn my bad habit around. Sometimes, some friends get on my nerves, one in particular when she criticises things I do in my life. I don’t want to fall out with her but I really thing that she does not have the right to criticise my lifestyle. I live a good decent life, am not a criminal, earn my own living and have no addictions. She gets specifically annoyed that I travel a lot (I like it and work hard to afford it) and I often date guys who are lots younger (I look 10-15 yrs younger). How do I deal with this criticism from some people and in the workplace?
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How To Manage The Stresses In My Life..responsibly?6 comments to How To Manage The Stresses In My Life..responsibly? |
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Sounds to me like your friend isn’t your friend.
People who like you and care about you want you to be happy.
They should not critique your island vacations with your hunky young boyfriends, they should congratulate these events in your life.
Your “friend” sounds like a jealous, juvenile person. You might ask her why these things bother her so much, by turning the tables she might have a split second of introspection.
Assertiveness training maybe?
dora – to manage the stress in your life and your job learn to TAP (use EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique or Emotional Tapping). In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release negative thoughts and emotions. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete. EFT works quickly and painlessly.
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As for your friend, you are right, she DOES NOT have the right to criticize you or your lifestyle…so, why do you let her? By criticizing you, she is in effect saying you should live YOUR LIFE by HER RULES. Does she own you? Her criticism bothers you because on some level (unconsciously) some part of you believes her criticisms.
wow dora congradulations on all you are achieving with your life and about others just be your self if people critacise you tell them truly how you feel and you are the one living your life right not them @40 you know what you want and @40 i don’t really think you need people trying to tell you how to live! about stress mabe some visual meditation would help witht he stress i do this and listen to relaxation cd’s i have a stress bifeedback card that tells me if i think i am stressed or not if i am i just practice calming my body down! also herbal healer acadameny has many good natural calming homopathic remedies i take some and they are great ad won’t harm you but if you take other perscription drugs you have to find out first if their will be any issues with these remedies with your prescriptions ok? good luck take care and enjoy this great gift of life we have.
Sweetness, all you need is a new perspective…
First, and foremost!!! Every single moment of every single wonderful day provides you with opportunities to make choices…you may deem some of these as stressful or exhilerating or blah, but they are all the same…opportunities.
Of the choices you make within those oppts., you reflect your personal definition of Self…what you choose becomes YOU…this you reflect to everyone else you encounter…the effect of which provides them the oppts. to make choices of their own…of those you should be concerned with none.
Of anything you come across in any given moment, do not grasp hold of anything that is not part of the reflection you wish to see in any mirror or window as you pass by…let these things simply flow around you while you pick & choose what becomes you…sound ridiculous??? It works!!! Who cares how it sounds??? See??? LOL
Ex.: You have a choice…keep this “friend” or let her go…if you keep her, you will have to giggle and say to yourself “Bless this Chickie, she simply has no clue” (and mean it) every other minute, or if she no longer fits in with your ways of being, ignore her needs to be around you, make yourself unavailable, and release her from your realm of things…YOUR choice!!!
At work…it is not a stressful situation, it is a challenge confronting you…Who & What are you going TO BE while handling it??? Hmmm…a strong person with the knowledge & wisdom to make gains of it, or a woosy depressant who can’t grab a bull by it’s nuts??? Again, your choice!!!
When you go away, do you lay on the massage table with gorgeous hands moving your tired muscles into erotica, or do you wonder what your buddy will say when you get home??? Come-On Sense here, Dear!!! But you have the choice, no matter, right???
You see??? We are only here with one purpose…every one–one purpose…to be. Yep, that’s it in a nut shell…every choice–”to be, or not to be…that is the question”. Too easy??? Sorry ’bout that, but that’s it just the same. So Who & What do you want to be when you grow up??? LOL
Stop yourself & giggle, Love…it’s perfect medicine for your kind of ills…giggle when Murphy’s Law trips you up, giggle when people say stupid things, giggle when your hair just won’t cooperate, giggle at the 25 mph-er in the 45 zone, giggle when your car breaks down & you’re in high heals that day…and “Blessed Be” to all of if while you’re chuckling…bless it all, because you are alive & you can make the choice to laugh or cry in the matter, and crying is not going to make a pretty reflection of you. Bless every moment & every person, because what goes around, comes around, and you only need good stuff comin’ at ya. Bless every opportunity for choice from this moment on because now you know wiser…now you know how to be the creator that you are…
It’s a Good Journey!!!
These are some permanent helps
Yoga, meditation, Pilate
Breathing exercises
Tapping technique
Affirmations and Self Hypnosis or Self Talk.
Reading good books like “Chicken soup for the soul”
Exercise – home or gym
Acupuncture helps for addiction and cure try www . acupuncture . com
Chinese Herbal medicine is very good
Having good friends
Go the toilet and empty the bladder before sleep
Do not overeat or eat late and do not drink water within 2 hours before going to bed.
Music therapy – Listening to soft melodious music, Mozart or Handel for example.
Good luck