i know its long but please help..
Okay, well my family used to be perfect but it just started getting bad a couple of years ago and it gets worse and worse. When my mom had her first child, she only lived to be 12 days old, and that really left a big hold in my moms life. So… she went to counceling, and that helped but shes still going to it, and its not really seeming to help anymore with our family issues. Then, She had me and she was really really really overprotective until around the age of 11 “im 14 now”, and we had a really close relationship. Then, she had my brother “who is 10 now” and hes always had problems with anger management, so i guess you could say it started going downhill there. Then she had my other brother “8 now” and hes always been the “sweet, perfect, angelic, sensitive” child. Last, she has my sister “4 now” she used to be really sweet but after all the screaming and emotional stress that has gone on, shes become really mean and hateful of everyone.
I dont know exactly where it all started. I guess it started with me and my mom/my brother and my mom getting fights which increasingly got worse “i think part of it might be becauser my mom has borderline personality disorder’ but anway at the same time my dad just started a new business, so hes not home as much, and hes trying to make money but my mom has this idea in her head that he just wants to be away from the family, thats not the case at all.
So it started getting worse and worse when it became physical. For example, my mom would hit my brother kinda lightly with a closed fist, he would hit her back, he would say he wanted to kill her in her sleep, my mom would say i hate you, and my brother would call my dad at work. My mom always ALWAYS twisted around the stories and i think in her head, she made herself believe that they were true, but after enough of these fighting scenarios with all of us, my dad started to believe the kids, which my mom HATES. My mom loves the two youngest siblings, and thinks there perfect, my little sister definately isnt, and since our relationship which was strongest grew apart, she even loves my 10 year old brother more and is always sticking up for him. Luckily, I have my dad who sticks up for me. so it is basically my mom and brother against me and my dad.
Well after all these calls of me crying to my dad, and me running away, because my mom would call me “worthless,slutty, not as good as anyone in the family” and she would say she wants to send me away, my dad started threatening divorce, which is not a good thing to bpd people. Ever since then my moms been trying so hard to not hit us, but my dad thinks shes trying to hard and being faky and hes still considering divorce as a possibility. So every time he mentions it my mom literally has a breakdown “cusses, hits people, cant breathe, runs around in circles, tries to find the keys to her car to drive away” all of that stuff.. and she is always saying how shes not gonna live without my dad which kind of puts him on the spot. My dad has so much financial stress, and family stress adn hes becoming depressed and sad, and hes never smiling anymore. The last few months have been hardest for me. Ive started cutting, I have very in depth suicidal thoughts, and i just sit in my room and listen to music, nothing in life seems fun aymore, i just want to sleep and never wake up.
My mom has her nice days too, she takes me shopping, out to lunch, and laughs but i cant forgive her for everthing shes done in the past. me and my dad try to tell her that but she just says how hateful, and grudge holding we are. I realy feel so bad, and yesterday morning she left and i dont konw where she is, and im relaly scared and worried, and she caled my dad last night but only asked to say goodnight to the other kids. She hates me so much, And i konw its because she thinks in her little twisted brain that im trying to break her and my dad up but im doing the opositte. Im going to a psychologist and i just got bloodtests for this…. http://www.theultramindsolution.com/laun… instead of having to take medication, im waiting to get my results back, but im so depressed, and lonely. adn i have to balance school on top of al lof this right now i have straight fs and im moving schools so ill have to get adjusted to that school and what should i do. im scard to call my mom and find out where she is………she could be anywhere from a friends house, to a psychiatric ward, to a hotel

Technorati Tags: Cant, Hard, Help, Life, Matter., Mess, Moms, Please, Suicidal...my, Suicidal..im

My husband has been working at the same company for about 6 years, gradually moving up into middle management. The company is now expanding and money is really tight there. He is the purchasing manager and manages purchasing for all the facilities (us, mexico, east coast and China). Because money is tight, his job is really high stress because they are on credit hold with all his vendors and he can’t make deadlines because he can’t buy material. Every day he comes home stressed, sometimes to the point of tears. I feel horrible for him. Problem is, he doesn’t have his BA yet, he has about 2 more years to go on it, and is going part time to school now. I don’t think he could get another job with the same salary (about 55k) without a degree. And, since he hates his job due to the high stress, I doubt he’d want to go into the same thing at another company, which is where all his experience is. I am pregnant with twins and have kids, so I can’t go back to work now. What can he do?

Technorati Tags: Hates, Husband, What

TEN BEST THINGS TO SAY IF YOU GET CAUGHT SLEEPING AT YOUR DESK………
10. “They told me at the Blood Bank this might happen.”
9. “This is just a 15 minute power nap they raved about in the time management course you sent me to.”
8. “Whew! Guess I left the top off the Whiteout. You probably got here just in time.”
7. “I wasn’t sleeping! I was meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new business strategy.”
6. “I was testing my keyboard for drool resistance.”
5. “I was doing a highly specific Yoga exercise to relieve work-related stress. Are you discriminatory toward people who practice Yoga?”
4. “Well! Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out how to handle that big accounting problem.”
3. “Did you ever notice sound coming out of these keyboards when you put your ear down real close?”
2. “Who put decaf in the wrong pot?!?”
And the NUMBER ONE best thing to say if you get caught sleeping at your desk !
1. Raise your head slowly and say, “…in Jesus name, Amen.”

Technorati Tags: Side, Sleeping, Still, Valid, Work

I am so explosive lately – what is wrong with me?
I have never been like this before and really don’t know what is wrong with me. It started a few months ago. It may have something to do with the following:
1) I have been working for a company for three years and I am good at what I do. My old manager was going to promote me. She was given a different department and a new guy took over. He hired a friend of his to take the position I was supposed to get and both of them are idiots and don’t know what they are doing. I don’t think there is any management in the department and I am getting angry at work. My so called ‘boss’ seems to be in competition with me or something. Any time I have an idea – he’ll say ‘Oh, I was going to do it this way’ – and he is usually wrong.
2) I am questioning my husbands true feelings for me. He doesn’t seem to be interested in being affectionate anymore. We took a walk in the park and we have a secret romantic spot. We went there today and instead of kissing me I got a peck on the lips and he seemed ‘forced’ into it.
3) I work full time and make breakfast, lunch, dinner, food shop and care for the cats (no kids). We just moved and he complains that we haven’t finished unpacking yet. He asks when I am going to clean the house because the toilets haven’t been cleaned in a month. His brother calls me a slob. – WELL, If I cook and do the food shopping and take care of the cats – why can’t he help clean? Or am I wrong? (And YES – we have had this discussion before and he knows how I feel)
So, Lately I have been very explosive especially towards my husband. Today I made breakfast, lunch, dinner, ran a few errands, cleaned cats litter boxes. He didn’t help clean up afterwards. He went out with a few friends for a few hours came home and sat on the couch watching TV for hours. While I was working out he asked me to get him a glass of water since I want to excersice and lose weight. At the time it didn’t bother me and I thought it was funny and got him the water. Then – for some reason I started stewing about it and asking myself ” Why didn’t he get it? I wouldn’t be so stressed out if he got the water himself. Can’t he see I am working out?” Then, I asked him to help out clearing the dinner dishes. He said “I’ll get it tomorrow. I am used to being a slob from being around you.” That did it – and I went off on him for an hour screaming and yeling about how I am sick of being called a slob and that I work too so can’t he help out – how come he didn’t get his own water and I said if he got being a slob from me then I got being lazy from him and he kept saying he’s sick of hearing me yell and shut up or go to bed. He also said that he ‘asked me to get him a glass of water” and he said I could have said NO. So he just doesn’t get it. It made me more mad that he didn’t acknowledge why I was so mad. I just feel so stressed out lately. Why can’t he get his own glass of water? Why can he sit there and watch TV and relax while I am running around doing stuff.
Ok – he has a point – I could just say no get it your self- but for some reason I got it then stewed about it later.
ANyhow – my point is maybe I have a reason to feel the way I do – maybe I don’t. I just wanted other people’s opinions about it all. Is something wrong with me or are all the situations starting to get to me? I mean – I used to handle stress very well. I used to have patients and tact and know how to handle a situation without yelling and screaming. I used to just be able to talk. NOW I fly off the handle screaming and I know it isn’t helping the relationship with my husband. I yell at him for no reason sometimes. What is going on?

Technorati Tags: Explosive, Lately, What, With, Wrong

10. “They told me at the blood bank this might happen.”
9. “This is just a 15-minute power nap like they raved about in that time management course you sent me to.”
8. “Whew! Guess I left the top off the whiteout. You probably got here just in time!”
7. “I wasn’t sleeping! I was meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new paradigm.”
6. “I was testing my keyboard for drool resistance.”
5. “I was doing a highly specific yoga exercise to relieve work-related stress. Do you discriminate against people who practice yoga?”
4. “Shoot! Why did you interrupt me? I almost figured out a solution to our biggest problem!”
3. “The coffee machine is broken…”
2. “Someone must have put decaf in the wrong pot.”
1. “…In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

Technorati Tags: Desk, Excuses, Sleeping

TOP TEN EXCUSES FOR FALLING ASLEEP AT YOUR DESK
1 “They told me at the blood bank this might happen.”
2 “I wasn’t sleeping, I was trying to pick up contact lens without hands.”
3 “I wasn’t sleeping! I was meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new paradigm!”
4 “Amen”
5 “This is just a 15 minute power-nap like they raved about in the last time management course you sent me to.”
6 “Whew! Guess I left the top off the liquid paper”
7 “I was doing a highly specific Yoga exercise to relieve work related stress.”
8 “This is one of the seven habits of highly effective people!”
9 “Boy, that cold medicine I took last night just won’t wear off!”
10
“Darn! Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out a solution to our biggest problem.”

Technorati Tags: Asleep....zzzzzzzzzzzz, Falling

I always wanted to try one…

Technorati Tags: Balls, Relief, Stress, Work

ok, let me first explain the situation… I work for RadioShack and have been loyal to them for over 2 years. 3 days ago a customer came in to buy a cell phone and we didn’t have the one he wanted. We had one like it but it wasn’t free like the other. The system allows us to “price match” on phones up to $71.00 I lowered the price by $50.00. Now, if you aren’t familiar with these high pressured companies everything revolves around selling wireless phones and expensive electronics. Anyway, since I “price matched” the phone’s price he ended up buying an $800.00 computer from me also. Anyway, long story short. The other store in town found out about my price change and tattled on me to the District manager. He in turn, Blew it out of proportion by contacting our loss and prevention manager and “writing me up” for it (I have NEVER been written up) Anyway, i’m going to quit… and thought I would send him a “nice” letter… this is what it says…
To whom it may concern,
To start off I must say that I have been very loyal to this company for over 2 years. I have never betrayed RadioShack or its management. I have always been on time and called in sick once. On multiple occasions I have come into work on my day off or worked weeks straight. I have given the company no reason to think bad about my performance and have always excelled at work. I bend over backwards for the company’s needs and have done things that I was not required to do.
I must also say, when I first started with RadioShack my father was diagnosed with cancer. In July of 2007 he was diagnosed as terminal and was given 8 months to live. Regretfully, I kept my job at RadioShack because I believed it would benefit the company if I stayed. I spent every moment outside of work and school with my father as I was very close to him (which amounted to about 2 hours a day) and I knew I didn’t have long with him in my life. Within those 8 months I got to spend two days with him for the holidays (Thanksgiving and Christmas.) It would have been very easy for me to quit my job with RadioShack and again, regretfully, I kept my job at RadioShack because I believed the company would benefit if I stayed. My father passed away in March of 2008. Being the dedicated employee I am, I only took 2 weeks off of work for the grieving of a man that gave me 20 wonderful years of his life. I also have to add, that I have turned down several higher paying jobs because I enjoyed my job at RadioShack. Now, if that doesn’t tell you that I’m a dedicated employee to RadioShack, I don’t know what is.
Let me leave you with a few thoughts and comments…
There have been an abundance of horrible District managers at RadioShack. I have only seen ONE excellent DM within the 2+ years I have been with RadioShack. And YOU sir, are NOT one of them. I think you are one of the most pompous assholes I have ever met. I believe you have absolutely horrible management skills; let alone district management skills. You don’t even know what in the hell you’re doing with the district. You are a poor leader who just got the DM position because they fired the previous DM, and needed a “filler.” You’ll probably be fired right along with the others. You put nothing but stress on the managers and employees with NO sense of gratitude.
You make a big deal about price changing a wireless phone by $50.00 when the company probably makes more than twice that for that sale. Also, if I’m not getting in trouble for that I’m getting in trouble for NOT selling phones… If you haven’t noticed!!! The economy SUCKS! Your salary may not change because of the economy, but my pay does. Just because I changed the price of the phone I also got a $750.00 computer sale out of it. Now, with all that said…
Just in case you are wondering… I QUIT!!! **** YOU AND **** THIS COMPANY. I don’t get paid enough to deal with your BullShit!!!
Sorry it’s so long…. but I need your input for the letter (basically I want to piss him off) anything you would add???

Technorati Tags: District, Manager, Piss, Think, This, Will

threats to job security, constant change, tight deadlines, micro management, harrassment, discrimination and lack of promotional opportunity”.
These are typical factors that “stress” supposedly can result from.
If these problems are rife in the organisation, then few people, if anyone, will be noticing even if outsourcing is occurring. Everyone in the Sydney office may be thinking “there are 64 people in the Canberra office making sure that all the functionality in the software is really present, so the project is going ok”.
But if people have the stresses mentioned in the question, there won’t be a critical mass of people who might notice if for example the 64 positions in Canberra were about to be replaced by three positions to rubber-stamp everything.

Technorati Tags: Boss, Burden, Colleagues, Conflict, Consequence, Extra, Outsourcing, Tasks, With

I’m 22 years old and i had recently started taking a genetic brand of birth control pills “Enpresse” i am on the Wednesday of the second week, & due to upcoming surgical procedures i will be having and my higher risk of blood clot along with the 4 lbs. i have gained thus far and can not afford to…i have been advised from both my mother and weight management/ post surgical preparation doctor to just stop taking the birth control and stress my boyfriend to put on the glove…even if we are sexual active far more then just twice a week…i plan on making an app. with my Gino., but not sure if i should take my pill today at 10 am??? some advice and insight will be greatly appreciated! much thanks in advance!

Technorati Tags: After, Birth, Control, Cycle, Just, Second, Stop, Taking, Week